Archive for September, 2010

Forgiveness is one of the biggest gifts of emotional life. Forgiveness helps people become free from the past.

Before you forgive someone, you need to clearly understand what forgiveness really means. When we suggest forgiving your ex, it does not mean that you have to completely forget what he (she) has done to you and how hurt you were after the breakup. Also, your forgiveness will not justify someone’s bad actions.

You need to say to yourself, “I won’t let it happen again.” You can dedicate your life to prevent further damage. Forgiveness does not mean that you have to find that person and speak to him (her) again. It also does not mean that you have to get your ex back even though you might think, “I want my ex back so bad and I want to date my ex again.”

Forgiveness is an act that takes place in your heart moving you towards freedom and away from pain, anger, jealousy, and other emotions that you’ve carried for a while.

Forgiveness is a long process for the majority of people. It you were hurt a lot after a break up, forgiveness might take many long years.

How to forgive your ex

There were many situations where you’ve been hurt by your ex or by his (her) thoughts, words, and actions. Your ex might’ve done it consciously or unconsciously.

• 1) Take a pen and paper (no computer typing) and write down all the bad things that your ex did to you. You have to write in details.

• 2) Visualize every described situation.

• 3) Tell yourself, “He (she) hurt me by bringing my life lots of pain, anger, fear, and jealousy. All those emotions are very negative and bad for me. I’ve been carrying those emotions in my heart and soul for way too long. Now I am offering myself to forgive my ex. My ex (name …), you are forgiven.”

You have to repeat this exercise quietly, until you will be able to forgive your ex.

The most important thing is to not experience bad emotions while you are doing this. It will take time, but you’ll be able to forgive your ex and make your life happy. “But I want my ex back” is the thought is spinning in your mind. Everything happens for a reason. Maybe that’s why “your ex” is “your ex” and not your present.

If you want to have an amazing love life and relationships, you have to forgive your ex in order to move on. Your bad feelings, pain, and insults are like an anchor that prevents you from sailing forward towards your new life. So therefore, forgive your ex!

Don’t get upset if your legs are much shorter than the legs of supermodels, wearing latest outfits. There is a big difference between “long legs from the ears” and proportional legs. There is a great news for Ladies! Majority of men prefers proportionally built women with curved in right places.

Bones are great for making soup and times of anorexic skeletons are gone!

In real life real men prefer real women with real legs. It was proved by research in California State University. One thousand men participated in this pleasant experiment. They were suppose to look at women’s pictures in swimming suites and grade them. Some shapes were changed by photoshop in order to make legs longer or shorter. As a result, majority of men liked legs that were half of women’s heights.

Results of American scientists are matched with earliest similar results made by their Australian colleagues. Australian folks proved that men preferred average built women, not a skinny and bony models.

What is the first thing to do after getting dumped? Your choices are unlimited – from thinking about two hundred creative ways of how to get revenge on your ex and crying yourself to sleep, to moving on to the gym and burying yourself in a tremendous workload. You can have “girls” or “boys” nights out drinking away and then a terrible morning afterwords. And of course, this is not to mention famous one night stands and rebound dating. Again, there are a lot of opportunities and ways to go.

However, most of the mentioned break up strategies is destructive. “But what if I was just dumped and I’m going through the end of my relationship?”

You have to remember that you are not the first person who has been through a break up. A broken heart/break-up is not a terminable disease. This condition is very curable!

3 Things to do after getting dumped

• 1)    You have to make an immediate choice if you would like to live a happy life or a miserable one. If you are happy with being sad, angry, depressed, and unhappy, what are you doing on this site? Www.brokenheart911.com has one main mission and that is to make people happy! So, if after being dumped you feel that the end of your relationship ruined your life, and you are ok with that, we’ll kindly ask you to leave. But if you would like to be happy, keep reading.

• 2)    You have to pull yourself together right away and toss out all ice cream, beer, and chips (if you are male) and stop crying and moaning. If you’ve been dumped, it means that your “significant one” was demoted to a “very insignificant one” and is not worth your valuable attention. Wipe your tears and get busy preparing for a happy life that is ahead of you. This break up is not the end; it is a sign that there is something bigger and better for you somewhere. However, you have to be in great emotional and physical shape to get it.

• 3)    You have to forgive your ex. Being dumped is the biggest insult that can possibly happen in a relationship after walking in on a cheating boyfriend (girlfriend). Forgiving your ex is very important and there is a great exercise in Broken Heart 911 program explaining how to do it correctly.

One thing is for sure – life after getting dumped exists and it’s a better life because if your boyfriend (girlfriend) did it now, he (she) would do it anyways.