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• Every fourth case of a broken heart turns into chronic depression and every third severe depression leads to a stroke, cancer or heart attack.

• One broken heart case damages your health as much as smoking for two and a half years.

• The average woman gains 12-22 pounds after a break up.

• The average broken heart recovery period is three years and seven months.

• Broken heart stress and pain cancels up to four years of a healthy lifestyle (a healthy diet, exercise, and meditation).

• The Average time lost on healing a broken heart and living in pain and unhappiness is six years and four months.

• Every sixth person gets skin break outs from break up stress.

• Three out of every five relationships end with a break up.

• A break up happens every seventeen minutes in the world.

• The average age of the first broken heart is between nineteen and twenty three years.

• A Break up is the third reason (after death and income loss) for people to become addicted to alcohol.

• Every year people spend $34 billion on alternative healing where 17% goes towards bringing back happiness after break ups as well as $71 billion on therapists and medications where 22.8% goes toward recovering after a divorce and/or broken heart.

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Dealing with a break up and a broken heart requires skills and knowledge. However, dealing with a break up during the holiday season (and especially New Year’s Eve) requires advanced will power, dedication, and strength. “Everything that does not kill us makes us stronger.”

I was driving to a meeting, December 15^th this year, when a famous LA radio host made a joke about meeting a “break up deadline.” I turned the volume up. “Guys, the official deadline for breaking up has been met. Nobody should break up from today until January 1^st”. “Yeah, right,” was my initial thought….If only it was possible that so many people would remain happy during the holidays.

There are three main reasons why people break up a relationship during the holidays.

1. If a break up is a part of a “New Year’s Resolution.” This is the worst reason because even though this person might not stick to his (her) New Year’s Resolution, the “holiday break up” totally means the END. If it is not the immediate end, then it is definitely the beginning of the end.

2. If your ex associated your relationship with stress and a break up was the only way to get rid of extra stress. This situation can be undone, but it will take time and lots of patience.

3. If your significant other has another significant other and would like to move forward and spend the holidays with that person. There is no comment for this situation because it is quite obvious. There is only one way to deal with this right now – keep your oxygen and move forward.

10 Ways to Deal With a Breakup During the Holidays

1. Avoid mutual friends and his (her) relatives. They will be constant reminders.

2. Stay away from gatherings with couples. If you’ve been in a relationship for a while, let me enlighten you – there are much more young, smart, great, good looking, quality people than you can even imagine who spend the holidays by themselves and feel absolutely happy and completed.

3. Do an inventory of your feelings – do you a) feel hurt and miss your significant other or b) do you feel lost and incomplete? If your answer is “b”, then you have to research a different topic because your problem is not the break up, but the inability to feel like a complete person on your own.

4. Have quality time with yourself. Do the same things that couples do, but by yourself. It just sounds weird. In reality it might be lots of …if not fun, but decent time. If you have a budget, book a last minute short trip. A get away is always a great way to heal your broken heart.

5. If you absolutely cannot be by yourself, find a person in your social circle who is neutral and whose company you enjoy. Spend the holidays with that person.

6. Remember that break ups happen more often than you think and you are not the only one in this situation now.

7. Keep in mind that it’s better to be by yourself than in a dysfunctional relationship with a manipulating spouse.

8. The Holidays” is just a label and being by yourself during the holidays is no different than being by yourself during any other day. The main problem is not being by yourself, but feeling unhappy because you are by yourself at this present moment.

9. A Chinese proverb says that “problems are opportunities in working clothes”…you never know. Open your eyes and look around; you never know who you might meet.

10. Happy New Year! Even if you have problems now, the New Year will bring you new, good things if you will be open, positive, and optimistic!

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Sherry Argov Quotes

• Men want love and exclusivity just as much as women do. But he won’t go there if it’s expected or thrust upon him, or if he didn’t feel he had a choice in the matter. The less you try to sell yourself, the more self-assured you’ll seem.

• Men like rules and they like guidelines. If there’s something you don’t like, he’ll respect you for voicing it. He wants to know what the “do’s and don’ts” are.

• “ It’s actually a huge turn-on to most men when they are with a woman who behaves in a way that shows that she has a full life, and that if he wants to be in her world, he will have to integrate himself into her life. This keeps a marriage spicy too.

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• Sometimes women misinterpret the cliché “Men always want what they cannot have” and assume they have to have a rotation of guys coming around. So let’s clarity. He doesn’t have to compete with other men. He does have to “win” time from your other interests and all the little things that you like doing.

• It’s ridiculous how often you see articles titles “100 Sex Tips That will Drive Him Wild”. Most are so dumb, you feel dumber for having read them. Think about it. It’s not really that hard to please a guy. (if he’s not horny, make him a sandwich)

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• “Whenever you hear the words “don’t worry or trust me” be afraid…be very afraid. That’s what the wolf said to Little Rd Riding Hood. You should believe everything he says if you still believe in Santa Claus.

• Who he tells you he is in the beginning has very little to with how he will treat you. If there’s sex involved, he’ll promise you things you’ve never even heard of. Dating web sites are notoriously misleading for this reason. When a guy is asked to check the box to indicate what type of match he’s looking for, which one do you think he’s going to check if he just wants sex?

-         Casual sex with no protection, and no phone call the next day

-         Commitment, love, and poems under a tree.

He’ll check the one that says “commitment”. Because he is very committed (to see you naked)

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• No guy is going to say, “I would never marry you. But I really want to get laid”. If he’s not sincerely interested in you, it’s not uncommon for him to say what you want to hear. “Marriage? Kids? A big house? I can hardly wait”.

• Interestingly, almost all the men I spoke with said that they rarely pay attention to a woman’s flaws until she points them out to him. They find the female form beautiful, and they are admiring what’s right. So when he runs his hand across your stomach and you say, “I’m doing crunches and it will be flat by summer, “  he assumes you are busy scrutinizing your won body, and not thinking about his.

• With respect to pillow talk, silence is golden. Don’t ask questions like “Was it special? Do you love me? Was it good? How good? Better than other girl? The best you ever had?

• And when you are upset or sprung, he knows he’s in control. So cool you r jets. Chill. After sex, just do what guys do: make a sandwich, watch a little ESPN, order pay-per-view wrestling. Watch SportsCenter. And then fall asleep on the couch, in that worn-in spot with the butt imprint on it.

• Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis said, “There are two types of women: those who want power in the world, and those who want power in bed” And there’s a third type: the bitch. She gets both.

• No guy will come in at the end of a bad day and say, “Honey, I need spooning and cuddle time.” Instead, he may try to get attention by provoking you. Then he figures out where he stands by how emotional you become. When you are upset he knows you care and knows he’s in control.

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• Testofest – A strategic, premeditated dating ritual that involves pushing your buttons. The test usually begins with his pulling back in some way just to see what will happen. He may deliberately forget to call. He may look at another woman. In each instance, he’s evaluating your response. He’s expecting an involuntary reflex caused by a luck of emotional self-control.

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Surviving a break up for women is a very demanding topic. My friend’s little sister just stopped by. “‘Broken Heart 911’ sounds so depressing…” a happy 18 year old who just entered her first long term relationship wrinkled her nose. “Yes, it is. However, do you know how many people asked ‘Uncle Google’ about surviving a break up and broken heart last month? A very low estimate is more than 200,000 in US. And do you know how much REAL help people get? I’m talking about help where people don’t have to help a psychiatrist to make a living.”

IF YOU ARE A WOMAN WHO IS SURVIVING A BREAK UP, THIS IS THE PLACE FOR YOU.

Main Rules for Surviving a Break Up

• Even though at this moment the whole Universe is spinning around your man, please remember that according to U.S. Census Bureau, there are about 48 million single men that are over 18 in the US. Look at yourself and remember that you deserve the best! Treat yourself with respect.

• A break up is incredibly painful, but stop and re-think about why you are hurt for a minute. Is it because you really love him or because you feel stupid investing so much time in a bubble illusion?

• Don’t let anybody or anything damage your self-esteem! Yes, it is OK that he dumped you. The failure is a success in progress.

• You don’t need anybody “to be completed.” Yes, it is great to have a soul mate. However, if you are in the process of breaking up, it is obvious that HE wasn’t your real partner.

• It is WRONG that your happiness depends on your “significant one.” If your man is aware of the fact that he is the only one who makes you happy, it might be the reason why he is no longer with you. Being the main source of happiness is too much of a responsibility for any man.

• You have to stay focused on keeping yourself in a positive mood. It is hard to do and you need to learn a few secrets, but the results will pay off. Like attracts like and you need to avoid more negative events in your life at any cost. There were situations where a broken heart lead to unemployment and many more unfortunate events.

• You never know what will happen tomorrow which is why you need to concentrate on being happy today. Happiness has nothing to do with having a good relationship.

• If you are breaking up, it means that he was not the one for you. It is better to go through pain now than in ten years after having a mutual household and a couple of kids. If you are married now, imagine how much harder it would be to handle the same situation if you would be ten years older.

• Stop letting “society rules” and “family standards” dictate and pressure you. Yes, it would be ideal to live “happily ever after” and each and every woman dreams about it, but it’s better to be alone than in a dysfunctional and abusive (not necessarily physically, but emotionally) relationship. If your grandmother does not agree with you, let it be your grandmother’s problem. She lived her life; now it’s time for you to live yours.

• Men are wired differently. What seems innocent and deep to you, might seem overwhelming and boring to your man. Also remember that for you, deep intimacy is a sacred way of displaying your love. Well, it might be “just good sex” for a man.

Surviving a break up and healing a broken heart is a necessary and urgent step for women because a broken heart might distract you from being happy in other areas of your life. Your family, friends, and co-workers deserve to be happy with you as well. They have their lives too and they simply don’t deserve seeing your red, swollen eyes and sad face 24/7.

Sherry Argov Quotes

• “ When I polled men, they all said confident women are in very short supply. And that a confident woman is what they find sexiest.”

• When her attitude is “Pick me! Pick me! She hits the kill switch on his desire. It’s human nature. You’d be just as turned off by a guy who brought two dozen roses to a first coffee date and told you he felt like the luckiest SOB on the planet in the first five minutes”

• “Just because a man sleeps with you doesn’t’ mean he’s thinking about the future. For him to think about forever there has to be something he respects within you. Like a strong wit…and a strong mind”

• “Men tend to feel at ease with a woman who doesn’t care so much because then he doesn’t have to be fully responsible for someone else’s happiness. When a man sees you are happy with him but you can be just as happy having nothing to do with him, that’s, when he won’t want to leave you side, When you are happy, you are sexy.”

• “The bitch is not rude or abrasive because she’s smart enough to know that being considerate is more effective. But she won’t compromise herself to be in a relationship. She won’t work overtime to ‘catch a husband”. Because of this, he doesn’t classify her as a mindless woman he can take advantage of.”

• “When a man meets a woman who seems too perfect, too sweet, or too agreeable, he tends to become bored very quickly”.

• “By trying to be something she’s not, the woman automatically gets marked with the “insecure” stamp. “This one will need constant attention and nothing I give will ever be enough.”

• “Sophia Loren said, “Beauty is how you feel inside, and it reflects in your eyes. It is not something physical”. This is what makes you gorgeous to a quality man, because now you arrive complete. And that makes him say, “Gee, I wonder what is that special magic she’s got?”

• “The only reason men like stupid women is so they can take advantage of them – in a short term. A quality guy worth his salt wants a partner who is competent and multidimensional. Someone who can handle things when he’s not around.”

• “Self-respect is a one-punch knockout to a guy. When you are confident enough to wield your power and you show that you aren’t fearful of losing him, he becomes fearful of losing you. “Wow. She’s quick. This one is quality. I will need to mind my p’s and q’s to show her my finer qualities in order to keep her interest”. And just like that – Domino’s pizza and beer will be upgraded to red roses and Cristal Champagne.”

• “Everything men do is intended to impress women– whether it’s going to the moon, becoming a rock star, or driving a nice car. The Taj Mahal was built for a woman. The toys, the homes, the power suits…it’s all designed to impress a woman. Be that woman.”

• “You can tell how much someone respects you by how much he respects your opinion. If he doesn’t respect your opinion, he won’t respect you.”

• “A man talking on a new relationship is like a young boy opening a new jigsaw puzzle for the very first time. If he opens up the box and the puzzle is already put together, all the fun and excitement is taken out of it. But if the kid has to think, imagine, strategize, and put all the little pieces together, his mind is being stimulated. And then the little boy is tickled pink.”

• “THE DREADED TALK

-         Where is this headed? – What do you see in the future? – How do you feel about commitment? – I’m looking for the one. – “Do you want to settle down? – I refuse to waste my time in a dead-end situation. – I’d like to have children. – Do you ever see yourself getting married? – I’m looking for security. What are you looking for? – My clock is ticking.The woman thinks she’s subtly beating around the bush, or helping to move tings along. But to a guy? He sees this as way too obvious. It’s as blatant as a farmer opening up the mouth of a work mule to examine the teeth: “Good stock! I’ll take him”

• “You have to act like you are still getting to know him, and that commitment is nowhere on your radar. This will disarm him, Now he’s a warrior without a battle plan because has no idea how to swing his ax. With the nice girl, he can see what her plan is and win. But with a bitch, he can’t see his opponent or her plan. This is precisely why he plays…right into her hands.

• “Commitment is something a man has to fall into. It’s sort of like falling into an eight foot-deep hole in the ground that he didn’t see coming until it was too late. He went out for a nice little stroll and oops…lo and behold…he fell. “Help! I’ve fallen and I can’t get up!” Now he’s stuck to the floor like a peanut butter cup.”

• “A holding pattern means that something has the appearance of movement but it really isn’t making any headway. Visualize and airplane that is taxiing on a runway, going around in circles, but never takes off. This is what men often do in relationship.”

• “They (women) bring it after two to four weeks. A man must feel desired for who he is before committing and in his mind you can’t possibly know him well enough after a couple of weeks to make that decision. It has nothing to do with seeing other women or “commitment phobia”. He wants to feel it’s his unique set of qualities you fell for, and that his “magnificence” and “brilliance” won you over. And that you won’t be with just any guy who would take you in. This is the number-one reason why men back off. This is why you need to seem as if you haven’t made up your mind”.
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Fixing a broken heart can be easy if you know what needs to be done. Otherwise, you will be spending tons of time, energy, money, and efforts for nothing and will end up with the same, sad, broken result.

To fix a broken heart, you must do the following:

1)    accept the situation

2)    stop swimming and marinating yourself in a pool of negative emotions

3)    switch to a positive mood

4)    understand that he (she) is your ex for a reason

5)    forget your ex

6)    move on

The Broken Heart 911 program explains how to do that in details.

Step One – Accept the Situation

Did you know that the most difficult part of each and every problem is the acceptance of this problem? Your problem seems absolutely unique and unbearable at this moment. However, you should just think that about half a million people break up each day just in the US. You are not alone. It has happened to every person who was dating at least once. If a break up has never happened to someone for some reason, it’s not a good sign at all. Having a broken heart is as natural as having a snowstorm or an earthquake. Some people might successfully avoid it and some people might have a broken heart more often than the flu.

Step Two – Stop Negative Energy

Fixing a broken heart means getting back to your normal, happy mood. You get back to being happy if you are in a bad mood all of the time. If you are charged with bad emotions, the outcome will be bad as well. The situation will not change (we discussed in Step #1 that your situation needs to be accepted) so it is always better to leave negative, irritable, and angry thoughts and actions alone.

Step Three – Switch to a Positive Mood

When you make a conscious decision to stop being negative, you have to get yourself in a good, cheerful, positive, happy mood. It’s very easy to do it if you know techniques. The Broken Heart 911 program describes all those practices in details. A few of the exercises are dedicated to learning how to switch into a great mood, control your thoughts, and feel happy.

Step Four – Understand That He (She) Is Your Ex for a Reason

Fixing a broken heart starts from realization that your beloved ex is an ex for a reason. The post break up state of mind (especially if you did not initiate the break up) has a tendency of remembering mostly the good things about your relationship. Illusions are your worst enemies and you need to remember them. If order to fix your broken heart you need to be a realist – a very strict one.

Step Five – Forget Your Ex

The headline of this step should not mislead you. It does not mean that you should totally forget who your ex is. This is possible only in the case of severe amnesia. What we mean by “forget your ex” is that you have to really pre occupy yourself with different activities that would take your mind off your ex. Sitting around and thinking of how things could’ve turned out differently is a very destructing strategy.

Step Six – Move On

This step is easier said than done. You read this and think “is she crazy? I’m supposed to move on? How can I move on if the only thing I can think of is him (her)?” I know exactly what you are thinking and how you feel. However, there is a formula for everything. If you want to get a job, you have to send out a resume. If you want to lose weight, you have to eat healthy and exercise. If you want to fix a broken heart, you have to move on.

While fixing a broken heart, there are things to remember

1)    Your heart is as broken as you let it be.

2)    Your EX is your EX for a reason

3)    Everybody has had a broke heart at least once.

4)    Life is short and it’s your choice to live it happily or miserably.

5)    Happiness is inside of you; you just have to look deeper and pull it out.

Broken heart, break up, dysfunctional relationship, opinionated kids, problems at work or even a work absence along with mean fall weather and a global economy crisis are not the best conditions to spend days in your best mood.

There are tons of mood descriptive terms such as hypochondria, melancholy, boredom, longing, and despair. However, all of those terms won’t be found in medical books. Medical sources operate with two main concepts of “stress” and “depression.”

People who try to fight their bad mood need to know the difference between “stress” and “depression” as well as know that they are closely related to each other.

Irritability, a short temper, and anxiety are the main stress symptoms. Each and every person should be very careful with those symptoms because stress will not forgive the careless attitude. If you neglect your nervous system, you stress can turn into depression.

Therefore, we have to fight a bad mood and do every thing we can in order to be in a good mood. The sooner we start, the better our chances and results will be.

Let’s make an adjustment on the agreement – we recommend a no shopping and no food (especially sweets) therapy. Shopping will have a negative intact on your budget and food will get you out of shape (it might be the reason for the secondary wave of stress later).

Tip 1 – Wash Your Stress Away

Go to a spa and treat yourself with sauna, steam room, massages, facials, or any other procedure. Sounds simple, but all water procedures wash stress away. If you can’t afford a spa or don’t have time, you can either go to a good sports club (even if you are not a member, you can easily get a free pass) or you can go to any luxury hotel in you area. You don’t have to buy the full spa service. Most of the hotels will let you in for a minimal fee and you can spend as much time as you want near the pool and other amenities.

If even those options are not an option – take an old fashioned, warm bubbly bath with lots of lit candles and mellow music. Buy fresh mint and brew mint tea with lemon, honey, and a shot of cognac. You will feel brand new afterwards.

Tip #2 – Laugh Like a Kid

You should feel free to laugh at every opportunity, even non appropriate sometimes. A good laugh benefits not only your mood, but your health in general. Even if you don’t feel like laughing, laugh anyways. Studies prove that artificial laugher becomes genuine and contagious eventually.

Tip # 3 – Surround Yourself With Bright Colors

In a lot of cases, fall mood swings are results of light deficiency. In order to compensate this luck, you should surround yourself with bright colors. Stop saving electricity and add more light to your room.

Research color psychology and find out what color you would need to have around the most. Change your curtain and covers. Oranges and tangerines will remind you of sun. Fill your vase with bright fruits. Buy fresh flowers and place them in your living room (no flowers in the bedroom, according to feng shui).

Tip # 4 – Become Your Own Adventure Tour Guide

What would be an extreme experience for you – sky diving, roller coaster riding, or wall climbing? There are so many unexplored activities. Do any of them and your mood will be constantly lifted. In order to increase this effect, shamelessly brag about your experience and courage, especially to people who would not believe you.

Tip # 5 – Help Someone Who Feels Even Worse Than You Do

If you think that you’ve got problems, I’d love to assure you that there are many people who have much deeper problems. Find a person who has more problems than you do and help him (her). At the very least you can listen, sympathize, cheer up, and make him (her) feel better. Altruism not only reduces stress, but also improves your immune and cardiovascular system.

Tip # 6 – Get a Pet

Studies done by the University of California showed that keeping and communicating with a pet produces the serotonin, happiness hormone. Serotonin lifts your mood in fifteen-twenty minutes. Visit friends who own pets and play with their cats or dogs. You can even go to you local pet store and watch a fish swimming or a bird singing.

Tips # 7 Connect to Nature

Spending time near flowers, woods, or water will switch your negative energy. Sunrises and sunsets are the best time to connect with nature. Go watch waves for half an hour, take a hike, or just sit in the nearest park and your mood will improve.

Exercise: if can watch the sun rising or setting, inhale and slowly count until ten. At the same time, imagine the stream of silver energy going from the sun and wrapping you as a space suit and filling you with happiness. When you exhale, picture yourself keeping this silver energy suit on. Sometimes you don’t even leave the office in order to do this exercise. What you need is a window and the sun.

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