Archive for June, 2012

30
Jun

Real love stories

Written by Lana ~ The first time I laid eyes on my ex, I thought he was the most handsome man in the world. Although after thinking about it for a minute I realized that I haven’t really seen much of the world. I was also chubby and in the middle of a weird phase, so we didn’t hit it of right away. We did become good friends though, and that lasted for two years, during which I lost weight, grew and dyed my hair, and changed my personality quite a bit.

Then, on a normal night of pigging out and watching movies at his house, he kissed me. I could lie and say it was the best kiss in the world, but honestly, the first thing that popped into my head was: “Really? This is what I’ve been waiting for?” I felt nothing, but since I waited for that moment for years, I let myself keep doing it for the next couple of weeks until it consumed me.

After we started officially dating, I gave him my body, and thought we would be together forever. I never imagined my best friend would deceive me in any way, and when it happened the first time, I forgave him without even thinking about it. “It was just a kiss” he said. So I continued to let myself fall deeper.

We did everything together, and I really thought he needed me, until the first time he said “I just don’t feel like having a girlfriend right now.” This break up had me crying for weeks, and on the days I thought I couldn’t take it anymore, I called him to hang out “as friends”. Of course to him it was a chance to have sex with me without dealing with commitment.

Finally I got the strength to stay away from him for a couple weeks and before I knew it he wanted me back; I took him back without giving it another thought. Throughout our three year relationship he broke up with me the same way over twenty times and every time, when he came back I gladly accepted him.

Probably because I didn’t think anyone would love me the way he did; I was wrong. Not only was I wrong about that, I was wrong about him, because when I finally got the courage to snoop through his text’s I found the answers I tried so hard to deny in my head.

Yes, he was texting other girls, including his ex girlfriend who he had slept with behind my back numerous times. I was so devastated and furious that I stormed out of his house and told him to never speak to me again. Not too long passed before he was at my door again; this time with flowers. They were so beautiful I had to take him back, but even pretty flowers couldn’t keep us together for long and subconsciously I never really forgave him.

After our third year of breaking up, making up, lying, cheating and pretending that we were okay I went on vacation. I only spent a week in Hawaii with one of my best friends but for some odd reason when I got back home I just didn’t love him anymore. He tried all his old tricks on me but they no longer lit up my heart, and I knew I had to move on.

Sometimes I got lonely and other times when he came to me crying I wanted to just hug him and tell him that everything is okay, and I love him too, but that was no longer true. It’s been years since my break up, and now it’s very hard to look back and understand why I spent so long crying when I could have been happy, but that’s just life I guess.

28
Jun

Super girl

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Who is Super Girl? Is it someone who is drop dead gorgeous? Is she perhaps very successful – the one who gives chills to a bunch of accomplished men when she walks into a meeting and beats them up with a few sentences? Does Super Girl’s bank account carry more than six zeros after double digits? Or is she the one who will take a drill and assemble furniture faster than men? Does Super Girl have to be all glamour and famous? Who is she?

Super Girl is a self centered (in a very good meaning of the word) individual who has a balance of looks, brains, kindness, integrity, and iron will power and self discipline to accomplish and maintain this balance on a daily basis. Super Girl radiates such a great energy and charisma that other women admire her and want to be her friends, men fall for her charms on hello, kids would not leave her lap, and cats and dogs love her as soon as she walks into a room.

There are no bad looking girls and women, but there are many who don’t want to put time and effort into looking their best each and every minute of the day. They waste their energy on bad mouthing others instead of improving themselves. There are no stupid women, but there are lazy women who believe that they either don’t deserve a good life and a good man or they deserve too much so life must bring it to them just because. There are lots of real women with great hearts, but they might be lacking in other departments. Why? Only they know the answer.

Rules to Stop Waiting and Become Super Girl Today

1. Define for yourself what your best look is, plan for it, and start taking care of yourself now! Super Girl can’t allow herself to be overweight, poorly groomed, or badly dressed. If you are not sure how to do it, you don’t have to spend thousands of dollars for top stylists, designer apparel, and personal trainers. When I hear the excuse “if I had money, I’d look great too”, I feel sorry for the person. Come on, balance your food, check the latest make up and hair styles in magazines, and at least get your behind up for a walk.
2. Figure out what occupation will make you feel accomplished and provide you with decent income (you can always increase it later). Maybe you are not meant to be a super star, but you can become the best of the best at what you know or do now.
3. Erase your unhappy face and negative emotions forever. If you are angry, jealous, negative, worried, and scared, you will never become a Super Girl. You’ll remain a Super Girl hater. Smile, become fearless, and find happiness and kindness in every moment of your precious life.
4. Love the world around you. Love is part of your positive energy and charisma – the key to becoming a magnet.
5. Don’t be afraid to laugh when you are happy and put your sense of humor to good use.
6. Super Girls are drama free. Completely. Let your karma take care of drama. Everything happens for a reason and for the best.
7. Stop wasting your life on finding problems. The less attention you pay to them, the faster they will disappear. I’m not telling you to ignore your problems. You need to take care of them quickly and efficiently with an understanding of the fact that small problems are lessons that prevent you from major once.

Now, unglue yourself from the computer, get up from your couch, and make the first step on the road of becoming a Super Girl. When you will become one, your Prince Charming will happen to be right there, all your dreams will become realistic, and you will be one happy, secure, and charming Super Girl.

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27
Jun

Love Story

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My friend, Eve, was dating a great guy named Rick (handsome doctor from Beverly Hills) and wanted to introduce me to his brother. However, my sixth sense told me to not do it. I explained to myself that at that moment, I didn’t have the time or the desire. Instead, I offered my best friend to meet him. They met, they clicked, and they liked each other instantly. They were compatible in each and every aspect from sex to signs of horoscopes, from viewpoints on everything to food and drinks. Let’s call them Ann and Dave.

Dave came from a wealthy family and had an amazing job. Ann was very hard working, but she came from another country without money. She did not have a rich family or good connections. Her only assets were looks, brains, and a strong desire to study and work in order to accomplish a better, happy life. The only difference they had was a national background, but it didn’t seem like an issue or a reason for a break up.

Ann and Dave became inseparable best friends and lovers. Dave introduced Ann to his family and everyone seemed to like her instantly. After they were together for a year, Dave lost his high profile job. Ann was there for him from the first minute.

At the same time, things between my other friends, Eve and Dave’s brother, Rick, weren’t going that well either. Even though they were in love, Rick was seeing her as fun and was searching for someone more accomplished and rich to settle down with.

Three years flew by; Ann and Dave fell more and more in love. At the same time, Rick broke up with Eve and married Beth (“I don’t care how I look”, but accomplished Stanford graduate doctor). Beth hated Ann on the spot, because Ann was beautiful, lovely, fun, and especially because Dave was deeply in love with her. Dave still didn’t have a job and refused to ask his family for help so Ann and Dave learned how to live on a shoe string budget.

Dave decided to “pop the question” before Valentine’s Day. He was so excited when he went to his parents to discuss it. “It’s not going to happen,” was his mom’s verdict, “she is illegal and her ex boyfriend is in the mafia.” “There are plenty of other fish in the sea,” said his sister who had pretended to be Ann’s best friend for years. She also didn’t hesitate to accept Ann’s gifts on each and every holiday. “We have to check her background in an embassy first,” said Dave’s father. “Also, she is poor. All she can offer is her mediocre salary.” “We are coming from different national backgrounds,” Dave’s parents tried to convince him.

After Ann called me that night in tears, I honestly thought that the break up was on the way. I didn’t want to upset her, but I was patiently waiting for her to pack and come cry on my shoulder. I was ready to help her heal a broken heart. However, things turned around unexpectedly.

Dave really loved Ann. He stood up for her. He went against his family’s will. He bought a beautiful ring and proposed. He told his family that they have no other choice but to accept Ann. Otherwise, they would lose him forever. Dave behaved like a real man.

Two weeks later, Ann found out that all the rumors came from Beth because she wanted Ann out. Beth was jealous because neither her degrees nor her high paid doctor practice could bring her and Rick closer. Each and every person who knew Rick admitted that he looked lost and unhappy. He didn’t have sparks in his eyes like he used to have with Eve.

Who said that life does not usually turn into a fairy tale? Dave made his parents apologize to Ann. The wedding day is set. Ann is looking for the wedding dress and after I saw her trying one out, I have to admit that she will look like a real Princess who found her Prince Charming. Oh, and Dave found a great job. They will be living happily ever after!

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26
Jun

Finding happiness

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Finding happiness is easy. “Yeah, right,” you might think to yourself. “If it was that easy, the world would be full of happy, smiling, problem-free people.”

Again, I’ll repeat, finding happiness is possible for each and every person. It does not matter if you are a man or a woman, if you are eighteen or eighty, you can become happy at this particular moment. This will definitely take more than reading this article, but this read might become a first step for your happiness-on-a-daily-basis journey.

How to Find Happiness – The 5 Main Steps

1. Analyze your unhappiness – If someone gets sick and goes to a doctor, what does she receive first during the visit? Correct, an exam. In order to know what treatment she needs, she must find out what’s causing the illness first. Let’s apply the same rule for finding your happiness. Take a pen and paper (yes, the old fashioned way), and write down a list of things that make you unhappy at this particular moment of your life. You need to list all reasons, feelings, thoughts, and desires. Also, a good idea is to write an amount of time (when did it begin bothering you?) next to each reason.
2. Run a reality check – list at least ten things that you are thankful for in your life today (e.g. I have a beautiful hair, I got my degree, I have a great best friend, etc.) Different things make different people thankful, but the whole point is to find out at least ten of them. Personally, I suggest to find out twenty. By the time you finish this list, you’ll already feel better.
3. Get an understanding of a few facts. First of all, if you want something very badly, you’ll most likely get the opposite (something you fear to get). Just trust me on this (this is a subject for a whole book, not one article). You need to “lose the importance of what you desperately want.” Just let it go and stop worrying about it. It might sound crazy, but it works. Teenagers have an interesting solution for this. They suggest to “chill.” So “chill”, and let your desperate desire go.

Secondly, you need to accept and love yourself the way you are now. Each and every person is different for a reason. All definitions of people’s qualities are subjective. Nobody has a license to judge. You won’t become happy until you let yourself be yourself and until you love yourself and accept yourself the way you are now. Next and most importantly, nobody is responsible for finding your happiness but you. It is very easy to sit on your behind and whine about how bad things are. It takes much more to get up and get going to really create circumstances that will make you happy. And finally, until you are in a good mood, good things won’t happen to you. There is a “catch 22” – you can’t find happiness because bad things happen, and they keep happening because you are unhappy. You need to break the circle.

4. Plan your happiness. Write down a few lists. First list what you think will make you happy in the short term and in the long term. Drop the items that are “not up to you” from the list. For example, “I want my boyfriend to love me” – drop it from the list; you can’t do anything about it. On the other hand, “I would like to become interesting, positive, and better looking” is a great item because then you’ll become more confident and your boyfriend most likely will love you more. After you list your short term and long term goals, write down what needs to be done for each and every item in details.
5. Execute your plan, stay positive, smile every time you can, love yourself and the world the way it is, and remember that you are not able to control the world. The only thing you can control is what you think, how you react, and what you want. Basically, you control your own happiness. If someone or something makes you unhappy, it is your problem.

Happiness secret – every time something or someone makes you unhappy, stop for a second and find at least five benefits in the situation. Play this game and you will be surprised at how you can be in control and turn negative into joyful and positive.

25
Jun

How to forget your ex

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So how do you forget your ex? We all would like to hear an assertive answer “oh, it’s a piece of cake, it’s easy, follow steps one, two, three and you’ll wake up in the nearest future happy and healthy.” Well, it won’t happen unless you’ll have a major case of amnesia.

I have good news and better news for you. The good news is that forgetting your ex is totally possible. The better news is that the process of forgetting your ex might actually become enjoyable, but that’s up to you. It’s not any more difficult that losing weight, getting a degree, or finding a new job.

The Major 7 Steps That Need to be Taken

1) You have to control your thoughts and words. Every time you would like to think about your ex or talk about him (her), stop. This includes having conversations with him (her) inside your head.
2) If you are itching to get in contact with your ex, don’t set your mind on “I will never see/talk to him (her) again. Most of us tend to want a prohibited fruit even more. Set a timeframe, for example, three months.
3) Keep yourself occupied. There is one big secret to this. You have to make sure that you enjoy what you are doing. Be honest with yourself here. If whatever you are doing feels like a chore, it won’t do any good. Make a list of things that you wanted to do but never had the time to. Usually, makeovers are on the top of the list and it’s great! The better you will become, the better you will feel and as a result, better things in life will be attracted to you. Next thing you know, you care less and less about your ex. One day you’ll wake up with the thought, “ex who?”
4) Don’t regret anything and don’t feel guilty – it will suck your good energy. You can’t change the past and you can’t predict your future, but you can enjoy the moment. Your life is a chain of moments, so control each moment and you’ll control your life. Nothing is as sexy as a person who is in control.
5) Don’t believe people who say that “time is the best doctor.” Time definitely helps, but I know people who haven’t gotten over their exes for years, while their beloved exes got married, got divorced, got married again, lived happily ever after, and so on. Every time you are about to cry, remember that your ex is far probably enjoying himself now and having a great time. Why shouldn’t you?

6) Don’t get into a new relationship until you fully recover. Concentrate on other areas of your life. If you get involved with someone while feeling down, the entire relationship will be sick and sad. You can’t have a cheat meal while dieting, so concentrate on your looks, work, social life, etc. Remember, while you are in the process of healing, Prince Charming is not coming. But he will; just give yourself time.
7) Please, do not listen to people who say that there are “no good men” or “no good women.” It’s not true. There is someone for everyone; you just have to be ready, emotionally and mentally. Remember, all it takes is to meet one right person.

24
Jun

Broken Heart Quotes

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A broken heart is a reminder of all the lessons you’ve learned in your relationship. It is not the end of the world; it is just a wakeup call to actions, to a better self, to a happier life, and to a bigger and better future.~Viktoria

Never be upset if you broke up with someone special; be thankful that you stopped something that was not meant to be. If you are not together, it means that he (she) was not really that special. A special person won’t let you feel hurt; he (she) will make you feel happy and delighted. If you still believe that he (she) was special, just let him (her) remain this way in your heart. If you really love someone, do it unconditionally, not because you want something in return.~Viktoria

Sometimes, a broken heart is a result of obsessive feeling of possession; the combination of desire to have and fear to lose. It also might just be your hurt ego at the end of the day. Stop for a second and think twice about what you really feel. If he (she) does not want to be with you, let it go. If things do not work out – let them go. It’s like when you’re in a casino – as soon as you start losing money, you need to get up and leave or pick another table.~Viktoria

Break ups are hard to live through. They are painful, but vital. They are part of everybody’s life. If there is a relationship, there might be a break up as well; it’s a part of life like birth and death. You need to learn how to enjoy moments of happiness. You need to learn how to find happiness in the end. Nothing is forever. If you entered a relationship, you need to accept that a break up might also be a part of it.~Viktoria

A broken heart is an alarm that something went wrong. Instead of marinating yourself in pain and misery, make an assessment of what went wrong and move on as soon as you can. You think that it’s easy to say, but hard to do. It’s not true. The amount of time you will be heartbroken is totally up to you. What about your loved one? Do you honestly believe that he is sitting by a computer now and reading quotes like you? I don’t think so. Take care of yourself. Remember that you only have one life and how you choose to live it is up to you.~Viktoria

A broken heart is a negative condition. Being heartbroken can be dangerous. Getting yourself comfortable in misery can be an entrance to a black hole that will bring more unfortunate events. If you get sick, you’ll go see a doctor right away. Don’t treat a broken heart any differently. If you got there, try to heal as soon as you can so your personal life won’t affect your work, social life, and other areas. ~Viktoria