There are two view points on how to break up: from the person who initiates the break up and from the person who is dumped. Doesn’t matter which side you were…because a break up is…Great!

Reasons why a Break Up is a good thing:

1) Do you like traveling? Who doesn’t? You can see your break up as an opportunity to travel in your life – you’ll see new people, new opportunities, and new places. If your relationships are broken – look at them as a dirty, neglected house you would like to renovate.

2) Even if you are the most gorgeous woman at the world – there is always field for improvement. Nothing is more attractive than a woman who loves herself. The break up period is the best time to fall in love with yourself and enjoy your freedom.

If the break up is HIS idea

1) Break up like a Lady – do not raise your voice, cry, pull out your gun, or throw your favorite china at him – he doesn’t deserve it.

2) Just look at him, give the best Hollywood smile you can imagine and say “Thank you, it’s a great idea, I was thinking the same”.

3) Then  Leave with the happiest look at your face.

4) I DO NOT!!! suggest to cry, drink, eat all your ice cream and chocolate, send press release to all friends, family members, etc. You can do some of that but very quickly – you will have better things to do shortly.

5) Commit to not answering his calls, emails, etc. for one month (if you commit for more – you’ll fail, I’ll explain to you later why it’s important)

If the break up is YOUR idea:

1) Do not break up with him via text message or email – if you had any sort of relationship, then he deserves at least a phone call.

2) Do not go into long explanations and give multiple reasons – just say “unfortunately, at this stage of my life I cannot be your girlfriend.”

3) Do not feel guilty – you have only one life and can spend it the way you want.

4) Do not tell him “let’s be friends” because he will “agree” with a hidden thought that you’ll come back.

5) Do not agree on “good bye sex.”