Surviving a break up for women is a very demanding topic. My friend’s little sister just stopped by. “‘Broken Heart 911’ sounds so depressing…” a happy 18 year old who just entered her first long term relationship wrinkled her nose. “Yes, it is. However, do you know how many people asked ‘Uncle Google’ about surviving a break up and broken heart last month? A very low estimate is more than 200,000 in US. And do you know how much REAL help people get? I’m talking about help where people don’t have to help a psychiatrist to make a living.”

IF YOU ARE A WOMAN WHO IS SURVIVING A BREAK UP, THIS IS THE PLACE FOR YOU.

Main Rules for Surviving a Break Up

• Even though at this moment the whole Universe is spinning around your man, please remember that according to U.S. Census Bureau, there are about 48 million single men that are over 18 in the US. Look at yourself and remember that you deserve the best! Treat yourself with respect.

• A break up is incredibly painful, but stop and re-think about why you are hurt for a minute. Is it because you really love him or because you feel stupid investing so much time in a bubble illusion?

• Don’t let anybody or anything damage your self-esteem! Yes, it is OK that he dumped you. The failure is a success in progress.

• You don’t need anybody “to be completed.” Yes, it is great to have a soul mate. However, if you are in the process of breaking up, it is obvious that HE wasn’t your real partner.

• It is WRONG that your happiness depends on your “significant one.” If your man is aware of the fact that he is the only one who makes you happy, it might be the reason why he is no longer with you. Being the main source of happiness is too much of a responsibility for any man.

• You have to stay focused on keeping yourself in a positive mood. It is hard to do and you need to learn a few secrets, but the results will pay off. Like attracts like and you need to avoid more negative events in your life at any cost. There were situations where a broken heart lead to unemployment and many more unfortunate events.

• You never know what will happen tomorrow which is why you need to concentrate on being happy today. Happiness has nothing to do with having a good relationship.

• If you are breaking up, it means that he was not the one for you. It is better to go through pain now than in ten years after having a mutual household and a couple of kids. If you are married now, imagine how much harder it would be to handle the same situation if you would be ten years older.

• Stop letting “society rules” and “family standards” dictate and pressure you. Yes, it would be ideal to live “happily ever after” and each and every woman dreams about it, but it’s better to be alone than in a dysfunctional and abusive (not necessarily physically, but emotionally) relationship. If your grandmother does not agree with you, let it be your grandmother’s problem. She lived her life; now it’s time for you to live yours.

• Men are wired differently. What seems innocent and deep to you, might seem overwhelming and boring to your man. Also remember that for you, deep intimacy is a sacred way of displaying your love. Well, it might be “just good sex” for a man.

Surviving a break up and healing a broken heart is a necessary and urgent step for women because a broken heart might distract you from being happy in other areas of your life. Your family, friends, and co-workers deserve to be happy with you as well. They have their lives too and they simply don’t deserve seeing your red, swollen eyes and sad face 24/7.