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Written by Lana ~ The first time I laid eyes on my ex, I thought he was the most handsome man in the world. Although after thinking about it for a minute I realized that I haven’t really seen much of the world. I was also chubby and in the middle of a weird phase, so we didn’t hit it of right away. We did become good friends though, and that lasted for two years, during which I lost weight, grew and dyed my hair, and changed my personality quite a bit.

Then, on a normal night of pigging out and watching movies at his house, he kissed me. I could lie and say it was the best kiss in the world, but honestly, the first thing that popped into my head was: “Really? This is what I’ve been waiting for?” I felt nothing, but since I waited for that moment for years, I let myself keep doing it for the next couple of weeks until it consumed me.

After we started officially dating, I gave him my body, and thought we would be together forever. I never imagined my best friend would deceive me in any way, and when it happened the first time, I forgave him without even thinking about it. “It was just a kiss” he said. So I continued to let myself fall deeper.

We did everything together, and I really thought he needed me, until the first time he said “I just don’t feel like having a girlfriend right now.” This break up had me crying for weeks, and on the days I thought I couldn’t take it anymore, I called him to hang out “as friends”. Of course to him it was a chance to have sex with me without dealing with commitment.

Finally I got the strength to stay away from him for a couple weeks and before I knew it he wanted me back; I took him back without giving it another thought. Throughout our three year relationship he broke up with me the same way over twenty times and every time, when he came back I gladly accepted him.

Probably because I didn’t think anyone would love me the way he did; I was wrong. Not only was I wrong about that, I was wrong about him, because when I finally got the courage to snoop through his text’s I found the answers I tried so hard to deny in my head.

Yes, he was texting other girls, including his ex girlfriend who he had slept with behind my back numerous times. I was so devastated and furious that I stormed out of his house and told him to never speak to me again. Not too long passed before he was at my door again; this time with flowers. They were so beautiful I had to take him back, but even pretty flowers couldn’t keep us together for long and subconsciously I never really forgave him.

After our third year of breaking up, making up, lying, cheating and pretending that we were okay I went on vacation. I only spent a week in Hawaii with one of my best friends but for some odd reason when I got back home I just didn’t love him anymore. He tried all his old tricks on me but they no longer lit up my heart, and I knew I had to move on.

Sometimes I got lonely and other times when he came to me crying I wanted to just hug him and tell him that everything is okay, and I love him too, but that was no longer true. It’s been years since my break up, and now it’s very hard to look back and understand why I spent so long crying when I could have been happy, but that’s just life I guess.

Broken heart, break up, dysfunctional relationship, opinionated kids, problems at work or even a work absence along with mean fall weather and a global economy crisis are not the best conditions to spend days in your best mood.

There are tons of mood descriptive terms such as hypochondria, melancholy, boredom, longing, and despair. However, all of those terms won’t be found in medical books. Medical sources operate with two main concepts of “stress” and “depression.”

People who try to fight their bad mood need to know the difference between “stress” and “depression” as well as know that they are closely related to each other.

Irritability, a short temper, and anxiety are the main stress symptoms. Each and every person should be very careful with those symptoms because stress will not forgive the careless attitude. If you neglect your nervous system, you stress can turn into depression.

Therefore, we have to fight a bad mood and do every thing we can in order to be in a good mood. The sooner we start, the better our chances and results will be.

Let’s make an adjustment on the agreement – we recommend a no shopping and no food (especially sweets) therapy. Shopping will have a negative intact on your budget and food will get you out of shape (it might be the reason for the secondary wave of stress later).

Tip 1 – Wash Your Stress Away

Go to a spa and treat yourself with sauna, steam room, massages, facials, or any other procedure. Sounds simple, but all water procedures wash stress away. If you can’t afford a spa or don’t have time, you can either go to a good sports club (even if you are not a member, you can easily get a free pass) or you can go to any luxury hotel in you area. You don’t have to buy the full spa service. Most of the hotels will let you in for a minimal fee and you can spend as much time as you want near the pool and other amenities.

If even those options are not an option – take an old fashioned, warm bubbly bath with lots of lit candles and mellow music. Buy fresh mint and brew mint tea with lemon, honey, and a shot of cognac. You will feel brand new afterwards.

Tip #2 – Laugh Like a Kid

You should feel free to laugh at every opportunity, even non appropriate sometimes. A good laugh benefits not only your mood, but your health in general. Even if you don’t feel like laughing, laugh anyways. Studies prove that artificial laugher becomes genuine and contagious eventually.

Tip # 3 – Surround Yourself With Bright Colors

In a lot of cases, fall mood swings are results of light deficiency. In order to compensate this luck, you should surround yourself with bright colors. Stop saving electricity and add more light to your room.

Research color psychology and find out what color you would need to have around the most. Change your curtain and covers. Oranges and tangerines will remind you of sun. Fill your vase with bright fruits. Buy fresh flowers and place them in your living room (no flowers in the bedroom, according to feng shui).

Tip # 4 – Become Your Own Adventure Tour Guide

What would be an extreme experience for you – sky diving, roller coaster riding, or wall climbing? There are so many unexplored activities. Do any of them and your mood will be constantly lifted. In order to increase this effect, shamelessly brag about your experience and courage, especially to people who would not believe you.

Tip # 5 – Help Someone Who Feels Even Worse Than You Do

If you think that you’ve got problems, I’d love to assure you that there are many people who have much deeper problems. Find a person who has more problems than you do and help him (her). At the very least you can listen, sympathize, cheer up, and make him (her) feel better. Altruism not only reduces stress, but also improves your immune and cardiovascular system.

Tip # 6 – Get a Pet

Studies done by the University of California showed that keeping and communicating with a pet produces the serotonin, happiness hormone. Serotonin lifts your mood in fifteen-twenty minutes. Visit friends who own pets and play with their cats or dogs. You can even go to you local pet store and watch a fish swimming or a bird singing.

Tips # 7 Connect to Nature

Spending time near flowers, woods, or water will switch your negative energy. Sunrises and sunsets are the best time to connect with nature. Go watch waves for half an hour, take a hike, or just sit in the nearest park and your mood will improve.

Exercise: if can watch the sun rising or setting, inhale and slowly count until ten. At the same time, imagine the stream of silver energy going from the sun and wrapping you as a space suit and filling you with happiness. When you exhale, picture yourself keeping this silver energy suit on. Sometimes you don’t even leave the office in order to do this exercise. What you need is a window and the sun.

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