Love

• “…once you get that down, you’ll have to understand a few essential truths: men are driven by who they are, what they do, and how much they make”.

• “He’s not thinking about settling down, having children, or building a home with anyone until he’s got all three of those things in sync. I’m not saying that he has had to have made it, but at least he has to be on track to making it.

• “But for us men? It’s everything. After we’ve attained that, it’s critical that we can show off what we get for being number one. We have to be able to flaunt it, and women have to be able to see it – otherwise, what’s the use of being number one?”

• “Because in his world, he’s being judged by other men, based on who he is, what he does, and how much he makes. That affects his mood. If you know he’s not where he wants to be or not on track for being where he wants to be, then his mood swings at the house will make more sense to you.”

• “So if this is on his mind, and he hasn’t lined up the who he is, the what he does, and the how much he makes in the way that he sees fit, he can’t possibly be to you what he wants to be. Which means that you can’t really have the man you want. He can’t sit around talking with you, or dream about marriage and family, if his mind is on how to make money, how to get a better position, how to be the kind of man he needs to be for you.”

• “The way you can help him get there is to help him focus on his dream, see the vision, and implement his plan”

• “That’s a woman’s love – it stands the test of time, logic, and all circumstance. And this is exactly how you all expect us men to love you in return. Ask any woman what kind of love she wants from a man, and it will sound something like this: I want him to be humble and smart, fun and romantic, sensitive and gentle, and, above all, supportive. I want him to look in my eyes and tell me I’m beautiful and that I complete him. I want a man who is vulnerable enough to cry when he is hurting, who will introduce me to his mother with a smile on his face, who loves children and animals, and who is willing to change diapers and wash dishes and do it all without me having to ask. And if he has a nice body and lot of money and expensive shoes without scuffs, and would be great, too. Amen. Well, I’[m here to tell you that expecting that kind of love – that perfection from a man is unrealistic. That’s right, I said it- it’s not gonna happen, no way, no how. Because a man’s love isn’t like a woman’s love. Don’t get it confused, now- I’m not saying that we’re not capable of loving. I’m just saying that a man’s love is different – much more simple, direct, and probably a little harder to come by.”
• “His love is still love, though. It’s just different from the love that women give and , in a lot of cases, want.”
• “If your man loves you, he’s willing to tell anybody and everybody, “Look, man, this is my woman” or “this is my girl”, “my baby’s mama”, or “my lady”. In other words, you will have a title – an official one that far extends beyond “this is my friend” or “this is_______(insert your name here)”. That’s because a man who has placed you in the most special part of his heart – the man who truly has feelings for you – will give you a title. That title is his way of letting everyone within the sound of his voice know that he’s proud of being with you, and that he has plans for you.”
• “If he introduces you as his “friend”, or by your name, have no doubt that’s all you are. He doesn’t think any more of you than that. In your heart of hearts, ladies, you all know this.”
• “So, if you’ve been dating a guy for at least ninety days and you’ve never met his mother, you don’t go to church together, you haven’t been around his family or his friends, and he took you to a networking/job/social function and introduced you by your name, then you are not in his plans – he doesn’t see you in his future. But the minute he assigns a title – the moment he lays claim to you in front of people who mean something to him in his life, whether it’s his boy, his sister, or his boss – that’s the minute you know your man is making a statement”.
• “If a man is in a position of being questioned about whether he’s able to provide, financially and otherwise, for the ones he loves, you might as well drop-kick his ego into an early grave. The more he can provide for his woman and his kids, the bigger and more alive he feels. Sounds simplistic, but that is the reality”.
• “And a man who truly loves you would never make you ask for money for necessities – he would make sure that you need and mostly want for nothing, because every pat on the back he gets for bringing more money into the house, every kiss he gets for handling over cash for school clothes and supplies and toys, every bit of appreciation he gets for keeping the lights and cable on, boosts his prowess as a man. That’s why if he’s a real man, he will always put buying something for himself far below his responsibility to provide for his family. His need for another set of golf clubs or expensive shoes or a fancy car or anything else men like to spend their money on will pale in comparison to providing for loved ones, because those golf clubs can’t make him square his shoulders the way true appreciation from a woman can. Consequently, everything he does is going to be about trying to make sure the woman he loves has what she needs”.
• “And if a man can’t provide, then he doesn’t feel like a man, so he flees to escape the horrible feelings of inadequacy or he’s going to bury those feelings in drugs and alcohol.”
• “Of course, some men simply refuse to share the money in their pockets with their women. AS some rap songs and hip-hop magazines tell you, these men feel they’re being “played” if they provide anything of monetary value to the opposite sex. Some men even label any and every woman who expects her intended to provide for her the very handy, decisively ugly phrase “gold digger”.
• “I’m here to tell you, though, ladies, that the term “gold digger” is one of the traps we men set to keep you off our money trail; we created that term for you so that we can have all of our money and still get everything we want from you without u asking for or expecting this very basic, instinctual responsibility that men all over the world are obligated to assume and embrace”.
• “Know this: It is your right to expect that a man will pay for your dinner, your movie ticket, your club entry fee, or whatever else he has to pay for in exchange for your time”
• “When a man truly loves you, anybody who says, does, suggests, or even thinks about doing something offensive to you stands the risk of being obliterated. Your man will destroy anything and everything in his path to make sure that whoever disrespected you pays for it. This is his nature”.

Contributed by Richard Childs Entertainer

Our world has changed and we have changed how we seek love and how we define love itself.  Everything has a metamorphosis and has to evolve to be relevant.  Dating did not even exist a couple centuries ago.  Courtship was the most prevalent form of finding a mate.  Everyone was vetted by the family and there was little contact while separate from a chaperone.  Some may say that this is impossible in today’s modern dating climate.  I actually know someone who went through the courtship ritual and married not too long ago.   Arranged marriages still happen in certain countries such India. India’s approach to matchmaking is totally different than mostly any other place.  Professional Indian women approach dating as if they are looking for business partner, they see the early stages of finding a date from a purely intellectual perspective.  They look over resumes of the men that they are interested and evaluate them for genetics, earning potential and other criteria.

Attraction has many different levels:  physical, chemical, emotional, genetic, fiscal, and intellectual.  The only difference for most people is how they prioritize these elements.  Everyone is different, and thus the complexity of finding a mate.  The Indian approach varies but could be weighted in this order: Intellectual, fiscal, genetic, physical, chemical, and then emotional.  This is based on culture, and although many are appalled that someone would consider this manner of mate selection. This is their manner and it in no way effects you unless you apart of the process.  We must respect this.

Individualism is the unique trait that makes mankind an amalgam of eclectic personalities.  You have to understand this to know that stereotypes are a starter point but not the rule.   This is where the algorithm of the dating sites can go wrong.  A participant in internet dating is mainly intellectual exercise.  This is why the success rate of successful coupling for internet sites is so low.  The lack of personal interaction makes it harder for us to find our true mate.  Interpersonal chemistry is the key point to a successful relationship.  Many things in history looked good on paper but when put into practice they failed miserably; the Hindenburg, the titanic, or Sarah Palin’s attempt to garner votes from the African American vote through learning ebonics.  On the other hand many things that no one thought would work, were astronomical success.  Just because someone misrepresented themselves on their profile to cover what they thought was their shortcomings, doesn’t mean that you won’t like the actual person.   Low self esteem doesn’t mean that this person doesn’t have great potential.  Many people just need someone to believe in them, so that they can achieve their true potential.

Idealism is one of the major inhibitors for a person’s dating success.  Many people spend so much mental energy sculpting what they think is their ideal mate.   This exercise is easy to get caught up in and detrimental to finding a mate.  What we think we want and what we need can be totally different.  This is aggravated when you are asked all those questions on those dating sites.   Depending on your state of mind and your past experience with those issues; can change how we answer.   A bad experience with a person that holds the traits or habits will make you think that even though you may have liked those things before, you no longer do because of your past experience.   This is when you have to do some true soul searching to decide if you dislike the action or the person that soured you to this.  This is when our weighting of stereotypes can shut you off from an entire segment of people. Example:  I dated a lawyer and they were self absorbed, needy, was a cheater and an abuser. When you meet the next lawyer who you might be attracted to, then your past experience hampers this possible relationship.

Expectations are heavy in new relationships.  Men and women think differently and desire some of the same things but also function differently.  Shared interests are a tad overrated.  This is another place that algorithmic dating sites fail.   If you had plugged my parents into one of the modern dating websites, the chances would have been better to win the lottery than them to be paired together.  They had very few shared interests other than each other.  I saw my father joyfully do things with my mother that he would have never choose to do on his own because he wanted to do things with her.   Every action my father ever did in his life was to benefit her and thus benefit their coupling.  She stood by and cared for him through a six year battle with cancer, and they had over thirty years of happiness together.   They were even a result of a blind date orchestrated by my mother’s aunt.

The information age has so many on overload and knowing to much about the person or knowing to much of what a person thinks you need to know can be bad for dating.  Sharing interests is important on some level of chemistry, but not the defining marker of compatibility.  It is easy to assume that since someone only watches reality shows, and reads frivolous novels that they have a lower intellect.  However do you consider that their job is overly intellectual, and on some level boring so they escape into to other’s drama and need to power down the thinker and just enjoy watching odd people acting stupid.  It is also easy to assume that since all their shows are intellectual and all their books are deep and provocative, but again people have the choose to paint themselves as they please.   They may say that they love the “Big Bang Theory”, and their intellect could be geographically closer to “The Jersey Shores”.

If you put a lot of weight on their interest then when you talk to them in person, casually bring up your shared interests.  Passion will arise if they really like them.  They will have interesting stories and fun factoids.   So many have caught people in profile pimping, when you casually bring up a shared interest and they have no real interest.   Again not a reason to write them off get to know the person because many people have passion paranoia:  “if she knows I have a enormous collections of gnomes then she will never like me, but if I don’t tell her then she will not get me one for my birthday” or “If he knows that I like ‘clown on midget’ porn, he will think I am a nut…I wonder if he has likes oversized shoes”.  Although these are extremely funny examples, still substitute your fetish qualm or oddity and see if they are really a deal breaker or a nuance that makes you different but not weird.   When you have a perceived weirdosity then play a drunken game of truth or dare and go with it.

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Another time…there is always another time but all people understand that in reality there might not be another time. You and him might have as many reasons to see each other as you do to not see each other. You never know; you might miss one opportunity and life will give you another opportunity at the time you were supposed to be with this person. However, everything happens for the best and for a reason

“There is always another time” in a way is a synonym of “monkey see, monkey do.”

12 Reasons for Women to See Men Another Time

1. If a man is not clear about whether he wants to see you or not and can’t choose between you and watching a game, boys night out, a poker game, visiting his mother, etc., then it’s not the right time yet.

2. If a man says “I’ll call you” and he actually means “anytime before I die”, let other women to see this man.  Remember, a call is an action, not a condition.

3. If a man wants you to be exclusive with him, but he is not sure if he is going to be exclusive with you, then perhaps you need to see him another time, unless you would like to join his harem. I hope you are aware that sleeping with a man in a way means sleeping with his women and their other men.

4. If a man is “busy” every weekend, and the only time he has is on weekdays, then you might need to see him another time…next year perhaps? Unless it’s casual sex or booty calls, dating a special person is about spending at least one of your weekend evenings together

5. If a man does not return your calls within one or two days, it’s better to see him another time.

6. If a man practices hibernation or disappearing acts (especially after hot sex), then you should definitely see him another time – when his hibernation is permanently over.

7. If a man does not acknowledge Valentine’s Day, Christmas, New Year’s Eve, and your birthday with flowers and gifts, then it’s better to meet another time and preferably with another man. You can let go of Halloween and the 4^th of July, but hello, Valentine’s Day is a must!

8. If you have too many questions about your man, but can’t even get some answers – there is always another time

9. If the man has a couple thousand Facebook “friends” who wear lingerie in their profile picture and a significant amount of them post on his wall about how delighted they would be to see him soon, perhaps you need to let them do it and…see man another time.

10. If a man thinks that a relationship equals having sex when he is available or has no idea what a relationship is and what it’s for, then you might need to see him another time.

11. If a man is on a date with you, but suddenly starts paying attention to another woman, it’s cool…but not with you…so you might need to see him another time.

12. IF A MAN HAS A DESIRE TO SEE YOU, HE’LL FIND LOTS OF OPPORTUNITIES; IF HE HAS NO DESIRE TO SEE YOU, HE’LL FIND TONS OF REASONS.   THEREFORE, IF HE HAS NO DESIRE TO SEE YOU, THEN YOU MIGHT NEED TO SEE HIM ANOTHER TIME!

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• Won’t You Be My Valentine

For all the times I have hurt you,
All the times I didn’t support you.
For all the times I failed to shine,
Darling, won’t you be my Valentine?

For all the times I have let you down,
And all the times I made you frown.
For all the times I blew your mind,
Darling, won’t you be my Valentine?

For all the times I told a lie,
And all the times I made you cry.
For all the times that I was blind,
Darling, won’t you be my Valentine?

For all the times you have missed me,
And all the times you have kissed me.
For all the times your lips touched mine,
Darling, won’t you be my Valentine?

For all the times we made sweet love,
Al the times we prayed to God above.
For that little girl, sweet daughter of mine,
Darling, won’t you be my Valentine?

For all the hurt and all the tears,
The good times throughout the years.
For all the time you have been mine,
Darling, won’t you be my Valentine? – Ronald Doe

• My First, My Last, My Valentine…

I’ve never imagined that there can be this day.
A day that love will find its way.
Out of my heart and into your soul.
These feelings I have are beyond my control.

All my life I have waited patiently.
For a goddess like you, so beautiful, so lovely.
Words can’t express the way I feel.
These feelings towards you are all for real.

You are the reason why I go on.
Eternity can’t separate this special bond.
This heart of mine is reserved for you.
Forever it is yours, this love is true.

I’ll be your first and you’ll be my last.
My world, my everything, till my time has past.
I will always love you until the end of time.
MY LOVE, MY SWEETHEART, MY VALENTINE!  – by Sokea Meas

• Valentine Poem to Boyfriend – My Valentine

You’re everything to me.
Love was where we were meant to be.
You’re so sweet.
Kissing you knocks me off my feet.
Dancing with you in the bright moon light.
When we’re together I know it feels so right.
Your kisses take my breath away.
I love being with you every night and every day.
Loving you is like a dream come true.
I love you.
If I couldn’t tell you how I feel.
Would you wonder if this love is real?
My love for you goes on for each mile.
No matter what you do you always make me smile.
So this poem is showing you that you’re everything to me.
You’re funny, sweet and you’re always true.
That’s why you’re a part of me
I love you, you’re my valentine.
And 4 ever I’m and yours and you are mine. – by Tasha M. Andrews

• Valentine Poem  – When I Found You

When I found you
I used to dream that someday I might
find a lover who would be tender, kind,
and passionate…

I used to dream that someone whose
touch would awaken my heart and fill
me with sensations I had only
imagined I would ever feel…

A partner who would show me how love
was meant to be…

I told myself that this was more than
I could hope for-more than I could
ever deserve.

I used to hope that someday I might
have a friend who would know what was
deep inside my heart some one with
whom I would be safe to share my
secrets, my dreams, my fantasies, and
my fears…

A friend I could always count on to
listen and to understand…

I told myself that this was more
than anyone could hope and much more
than I could ever be worthy of…

I never let my heart imagine that I
would find all of this and more…
but that’s what was waiting for me in
your arms.

I found the best friend and the best
lover I could ever have hoped for… When
I found you

Happy Valentine’s day
to my dreams come true.   - Pauline L. Howard

• Valentine’s Day

Valentines, valentines
Red, white and blue
I’ll make a nice one
And send it to you.

• Valentine’s Day

If I could be the postman
For just one single time,
I’d choose to carry Valentines
So lovely and so fine.
I would not mind the heavy load,
Or mind my tired feet.
If I could scatter happiness
All up and down the street.

• For Valentine’s Day

Out of a snow cloud, cold and gray,
Something dropped on St. Valentine’s Day,
Whirling and twirling and soft and light,
Like wee little letters all dainty and white,
And I guess the sky children were sending down,
This Valentine straight to the children in town.

• Counting Valentines

Valentines, valentines, how many do I see?
Valentines, valentines, count them with me.
I have red ones, orange ones, yellow ones, too.
I have green ones, purple ones, and some that are blue.
Valentines, valentines, how many do I see?
Count them with me! 1-2-3-4-5…..

• 5 Little Valentines

Five little valentines were having a race
The first little valentine was frilly with lace.
The second little valentine had a funny face.
The third little valentine said, “I love you”.
The fourth little valentine said, “I do too”.
The fifth little valentine was sly as a fox.
He ran the fastest to the valentine box.

• Valentine Verses

Now St. Valentine is here.
We greet his birthday with a cheer.
For happiness from friend to friend
Flies with the Valentines we send.

Today as Valentines go out
To people near and far,
This one I’m sending right to you
To say how nice you are.

• Love is a Circle

Love is a circle,
Round and round,
Love goes up,
And love comes down,
Love is on the inside,
Trying to get out,
Love is whirling and twirling about!

• To My Valentine

If apples were pears
And peaches were plums
And the rose had a different name.
If tigers were bears
And fingers were thumbs
I’d love you just the same.

Valentine so bright and gay,
I am sending out today.
With the message, “I love you,”
Hoping that you love me, too.

• A Valentine

Frost flowers on the window glass,
Hopping chickadees that pass,
Bare old elms that bend and sway,
Pussy willows soft and gray.
Silver clouds across the sky,
Lacy snow flakes flitting by,
Icicles like fringe in line
That is outdoor’s Valentine.

I do not love you as if you were salt-rose, or topaz,
or the arrow of carnations the fire shoots off.
I love you as certain dark things are to be loved,
in secret, between the shadow and the soul.
I love you as the plant that never blooms
but carries in itself the light of hidden flowers;
thanks to your love a certain solid fragrance,
risen from the earth, lives darkly in my body.
I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where.
I love you straightforwardly, without complexities or pride;
so I love you because I know no other way
than this: where I does not exist, nor you,
so close that your hand on my chest is my hand,
so close that your eyes close as I fall asleep. Pablo Neruda.

• Beautiful Love

If I could spend a day with you,
we’d never get enough of each other’s company.
We’d hold hands as we strolled
along the beach and we’d talk about everything.

If I could spend an evening with you,
I’d cherish each minute that we’re together.
I’d stare into your eyes,
and, without a single word,
you’d know how much I love you.

If I could spend a night with you,
I’d hold you in my arms the
whole night long…
and I’d make passionate love to you.

If I could spend a day with you,
we’d never get enough of each other’s company.
We’d hold hands as we strolled
along the beach and we’d talk about everything.

If I could spend an evening with you,
I’d cherish each minute that we’re together.
I’d stare into your eyes,
and, without a single word,
you’d know how much I love you.

If I could spend a night with you,
I’d hold you in my arms the
whole night long…
and I’d make passionate love to you.

If I could spend my life with you,
I’d try to make you happy.
I’d always be there for you,
wiping away your tears when
you’re sad or blue,
and every day,
I’d tell you how much I cherish you
and our beautiful love.

I can’t begin to tell you
How much you mean to me
My world would end if ever we were through
I can’t begin to tell you
How happy I would be
If I could speak my mind like others do
I make such pretty speeches whenever we’re apart
But when you’re near
The words I choose refuse to leave my heart
So take the sweetest phrases the world has ever known
And make believe I’ve said them all to you
I Can’t Begin To Tell You
- Bing Crosby

You’re in my thoughts and in my heart
Wherever I may go;
On Valentine’s Day I’d like to say
I care more than you know.
- By Joanna Fuchs

On Valentine’s Day,
I’m thinking about
the special ways
you have made my life better.
The little things,
the not-so-little things…
Your kindness,
the way you always listen
and pay attention to me.
You make my world brighter and richer.
You’re a gift to me,
and I thank you for being you.
- By Joanna Fuchs

I love you all through February,
Not just on Valentine’s Day;
I cherish you when flowers of spring
Appear in the midst of May.
I adore you in the summer,
When the air is filled with heat;
Without you in my life each day,
I wouldn’t be complete.
I treasure you in fall,
When leaves are turning gold;
I loved you when you were younger;
I’ll love you when you’re old.
I prize you in the winter,
When colder days are here;
I love you, love you all the time,
Every minute of the year.
So I’ll give to you this Valentine,
But I want to let you know,
It’s not just today, but always,
That I will love you so.
- By Joanna Fuchs

My Valentine, you’re all I want;
In you, I find joy and delight;
You give me everything I need;
I’m happiest when you’re in sight.
I think of you both night and day;
I’m drawn to you in pure attraction;
When you’re not here, I ache for you,
For your fulfilling satisfaction.
I dreamed of love like this, and yet,
I never thought that I would capture
The deep, exciting thrills we have,
This intoxicating bliss and rapture.
Please be my Valentine, and more;
Be my life, my world, my all;
Together we can be content,
And share life’s pleasures, big and small.
- Anonymous

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• “You don’t marry someone you can live with – you marry the person who you cannot live without.” – Unknown

• “True love is like ghosts, which everybody talks about and few have seen.” - La Rochefoucauld

• “There is no disguise which can hide love for long where it exists, or simulate it where it does not.” – La Rochefoucauld

• “Love is like playing the piano. First you must learn to play by the rules, then you must forget the rules and play from your heart.” – Unknown

• “We always believe our first love is our last, and our last love our first.” – Anonymous

• “Love makes the time pass. Time makes love pass.” – French Proverb

• Love doesn’t make the world go round. Love is what makes the ride worthwhile. – Franklin P. Jones

• “Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies.” – Aristotle

• Women wish to be loved not because they are pretty, or good, or well bred, or graceful, or intelligent, but because they are themselves. – Henri Frederic Amiel

• Just because somebody doesn’t love you the way you want them to, doesn’t mean they don’t love you with all they have. – Unknown

• True love never dies, even if you have found a new love, the sweet memory of the past will continue to hunt you for the rest of your life. Unknown

• Love doesn’t make the world go round, love is what makes the ride worthwhile. Elizabeth Browning

• Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. 1 Corinthians 13:4 Bible