Millions of women are trying to answer an eternal question – how do I make my man happy and how do I please him in order to have a happy and healthy relationship? If you are reading this now, congratulations – you are at the right place.
So how do you please your man, how do you make a man want you, and, most importantly, how do you keep your man and make him come back again and again?
I believe that this subject should be taught in high school. Why? Because if a woman is not happy in a relationship, she is not able to concentrate on her work, family, and social life. If women knew how to operate in a relationship smoothly, they would be able to safe lots of time and positive energy for other areas of their life.
How to Please Your Man 101
Written by Viktoria
Stood up means that your date not only did not show up, but also did not bother to explain why it happened. Of course, there were no apologies either. The false promises to go somewhere or do something together are considered stood up as well. We are not talking about waiting for a person at the time he was supposed to pick you up and his phone was off.
Now, let’s make it crystal clear.
If a man gets stood up by a woman there can only be three reasons:
1) Something terrible happened – you should call her and ask what happened.
2) The woman is absolutely not interested in this man and does not care to the level that she won’t communicate with him at all. If a woman is not interested, there is nothing you can do except either step back, wait and pray, or find another woman.
3) The woman has been hurt by this man and this is her little (or not so little) revenge plan. If a woman is hurt or upset, then you really need to come up with a strategy for her forgiveness, but that’s a separate topic.
1) Disrespect – he simply does not care enough to call and explain.
2) Fear – he knows that he is wrong, but he does not want to go through the explanation process, so he develops an “ostrich attitude”, putting his head into the sand and pretending that he cannot be seen.
What is the solution? The solution is simple. Are you familiar with the “done once” rule? All people are creatures of habits. If someone did something once, then he will do it again.
Therefore, if a man disrespected you once, then he will do it again.
You are the one who has to choose between the pleasure of spending time with this man under his conditions or respecting yourself and not letting anybody treat you like a doormat.
I advise you to listen to him once and if he will do it again, then you need to move on unless you are fine with being stood up on weekly basis. If your man does the same disrespectful things to you over and over again, then he is the wrong man for you. There are lots of available men and all it takes is to just find one.
If you believe that you will be able to change your man, then I have news for you. The only age when you can change a man is when he is in diapers.
The way your man behaves is his choice and there is nothing you can to change his choice. The only thing you can do is make your own choice that will be good for you. Moving forward with your life will be the best possible choice because you have only one life which is absolutely precious. You deserve to be happy each and every moment of your life.
And when you meet your Mr. Right-For-You, you will recognize him immediately because he won’t make you feel sad or worried.
Move on and let Mr. False Promise/No Show worry and wonder where you are now. There will be other women in his life to be stood up. If you are a lady with self respect and self confidence, you won’t join them.
Men often take women’s caring, sweetness, and kindness for a weakness…big mistake!
Contributed by Richard Childs
Facebook has fouled the dating world a whole lot. You have to ask a lot of questions when you are reading someone’s profile: Is this information a true representation of the person or an online avatar of what makes them look the best? The anonymity of the internet has given people the courage to write anything. Self doubt coupled with the freedom to develop an online avatar of themselves has caused many an uncomfortable first date. Confidence in yourself and being real about yourself online is a major component of being successful in general. Being overly revealing is also a bain to your success. “Does everyone really need to know this factoid?” is a heavy question that you need to ask when making a profile.
Humans are inquisitive by nature. Facebook is like stalker heroine. I find grand irony in the fact that Zuckerberg ended up having a horribly invasive stalker in his life. With all good things comes a down side. The reconnecting with old friends, family, and former coworkers is great and its effect on freedom to seek information in repressive regimes has propagated freedom all over the globe. Despite all the relationships that it has destroyed, all the Facebook bullying, drunken booty calls, and breakfast menu updates, the freedom it has allowed and the democracy it has promoted is phenomenal.
With all of this said, I can easily assume that Facebook is most likely one of the leading factors in fractured relationships (and broken heart reason). Facebook has so many uses: self promotion, business promotion, informed living, true relationship building, and faux importance building. If you are interested in a person or in the early stages of dating, then you need to stay off their page or limit the depth of which you are digging, especially if they are using their page for business or personal promotion. You will be driven insane with assumptions regarding why this person is contacting them or whose status they have liked. ‘Age: number of friends’ ratio is important. If they are 18-25:500-700 friends are normal, and for their age group they are adept at Facebook and grew up with social networking. Stalking and liking most of their statuses is not as faux pa. If they are 25-35:200-400 friends can be normal but Facebook stalking is less accepted. 35-40:150-250 is normal and Facebook stalking may turn them off quickly. This is the ‘but’ and it’s a big one. If you see a person that exceeds these numbers and has no interest in self promotion of services, ideals, products, or business then they may be friend collectors and sorting through all of their contacts will drive you battier than trying to decipher the meanings of the symbolism in the TV series “Lost” or trying to decipher the drunken text of your philosophy student friend. Get to know the person, and then their profile will make more sense, if any at all.
Facebook ruins relationships – this fact is sad, but true. A broken heart logo can be incorporated in multiple profiles; as a matter of fact it would be great for the statistics.
The contemporary puzzle of dating and relationships is complicated enough to put it together and make it work. With pieces that don’t fit, get broken, or belong to different puzzles, it’s hard to do. Facebook provides a great opportunity to take dating and relationship complications to the next level.
Keeping your hand on your ex’s pulse, fishing for a new romance in someone else’s pond, flirting with someone’s fiancée, boyfriend, or husband (girlfriend, wife), checking her ex’s new flame and his (her) surroundings, making someone jealous, etc. This is just the beginning of the list of real activities.
With 500 million Facebook users where the average user has about 130 friends, 250 million people log on every day. 48% of 18-34 year olds check Facebook when they wake up, with 28% doing so before even getting out of bed. Over 700 billion minutes a month are spent on Facebook*.
Facebook has become a home for teenagers and a playground for adults. While teens like to share each and every action with “puppy joy” and innocent smiles on their faces, adults tend to use new toys more strategically.
Facebook is the new CNN for personal use where people can create and deliver their own information and news to their acquaintance circle. Of course, many serious people use Facebook for business; no doubt about it, but in the world of dating, relationships, break ups, and broken hearts, Facebook has become one of the most powerful weapons that is used constantly used.
With 46,256,040 (18.49%) males and 57,481,100 females (54.03%) over 18+ years old, there are 19,670,180 (18.49%) singles, 13,106,220 (12.32%) in a relationship, 2,833,280 (2.66%) engaged, and 30,761,820 (28.91%) married.**
Can you imagine how huge the field for strategic conscious and subconscious manipulations really is?
1. Stay informed about their exes.
The amount of people constantly checking the pages of their exes is scary. Tons of beautiful pictures where happy people are having fun, in reality, are posted with one simple purpose – to get the attention of one specific person and make him (her) jealous or show that he (she) is not missed anymore. While people constantly and start new relationships all of the time, the power of exes is underestimated. It takes at least one rebound relationship (sometimes more) to forget about that special person.
Facebook has become the new Google for getting information (use the information together mindfully, and you will be almost trained for a career as an FBI agent). You can learn a lot by reading someone’s profile and interests, as well as checking out his (her) friends, statuses, and pictures. The compete list of favorite movies and music will give you an extended insight on his (her) character. You don’t need an advanced degree in psychology to figure out their personality.
3. To communicate with someone indirectly.
Sure, women do it more often than men, but women are extremely creative. If wo men apply the same amount of creativity and dedication that they apply to dating and relationships to their jobs and studies, America probably wouldn’t be in the current economy crisis.
We all know examples of a girl who would spend money on shopping, doing her hair, and makeup, going out to some events only to put her picture on Facebook where she has 500 friends she could care less about, but…there is that one particular person she is in love with. So she would jump through all those hoops with “Facebook self marketing” just to get his attention.
4. To destroy someone else’s happiness by discussing sensitive topics with people in front of thousands of other people.
5. Reaching people you wouldn’t be able to reach without having access to Facebook.
THANK YOU, FACEBOOK, FOR EASY WAY OF FINDING THE TRUTH…IT WON’T BE POSSIBLE WITHOUT YOU!
Another time…there is always another time but all people understand that in reality there might not be another time. You and him might have as many reasons to see each other as you do to not see each other. You never know; you might miss one opportunity and life will give you another opportunity at the time you were supposed to be with this person. However, everything happens for the best and for a reason
“There is always another time” in a way is a synonym of “monkey see, monkey do.”
1. If a man is not clear about whether he wants to see you or not and can’t choose between you and watching a game, boys night out, a poker game, visiting his mother, etc., then it’s not the right time yet.
2. If a man says “I’ll call you” and he actually means “anytime before I die”, let other women to see this man. Remember, a call is an action, not a condition.
3. If a man wants you to be exclusive with him, but he is not sure if he is going to be exclusive with you, then perhaps you need to see him another time, unless you would like to join his harem. I hope you are aware that sleeping with a man in a way means sleeping with his women and their other men.
4. If a man is “busy” every weekend, and the only time he has is on weekdays, then you might need to see him another time…next year perhaps? Unless it’s casual sex or booty calls, dating a special person is about spending at least one of your weekend evenings together
5. If a man does not return your calls within one or two days, it’s better to see him another time.
6. If a man practices hibernation or disappearing acts (especially after hot sex), then you should definitely see him another time – when his hibernation is permanently over.
7. If a man does not acknowledge Valentine’s Day, Christmas, New Year’s Eve, and your birthday with flowers and gifts, then it’s better to meet another time and preferably with another man. You can let go of Halloween and the 4th of July, but hello, Valentine’s Day is a must!
8. If you have too many questions about your man, but can’t even get some answers – there is always another time
9. If the man has a couple thousand Facebook “friends” who wear lingerie in their profile picture and a significant amount of them post on his wall about how delighted they would be to see him soon, perhaps you need to let them do it and…see man another time.
10. If a man thinks that a relationship equals having sex when he is available or has no idea what a relationship is and what it’s for, then you might need to see him another time.
11. If a man is on a date with you, but suddenly starts paying attention to another woman, it’s cool…but not with you…so you might need to see him another time.
12. IF A MAN HAS A DESIRE TO SEE YOU, HE’LL FIND LOTS OF OPPORTUNITIES; IF HE HAS NO DESIRE TO SEE YOU, HE’LL FIND TONS OF REASONS. THEREFORE, IF HE HAS NO DESIRE TO SEE YOU, THEN YOU MIGHT NEED TO SEE HIM ANOTHER TIME!
“I hate valentines day!” is the most common phrase said by single people in their most despised holiday – Single Awareness Day. There are reasons behind this saying because society puts tremendous pressure on currently single people.
People who are single by choice suddenly start feeling anxiety and doubts about their lifestyles. “What if…” they think. This means “What if I made the wrong choice, what if I had gotten married, what if I had concentrated on looking for my potential significant other?” Those multiple “ifs” twirl inside of their heads 24/7 as soon as they are trigged by multiple red ads with heart shaped objects.
People who are single by choice usually win those inner battles pretty quickly and do not acknowledge the “V” holiday at all. They pretend it does not exist. However, this group of people is not that big. The largest “I hate Valentines Day” group is people who went through a dramatic break up. They either just cured their broken heart or still have it. Those people would give up lots of things in their lives in order to be held by someone who loves them on Valentines Day. Of course, 90% of those people are women.
Unfortunately, the real situation is not that simple. Those single people who dread being single on Valentines Day put a tremendous amount of pressure, anxiety, jealousy, and negativity on themselves. This is very dangerous because it can not only damage their health, but can also attract negative events in other areas of their lives (work, family, social, etc). Their inner moaning and crying about their exes might lead to not only multiple diseases (if they have kids under thirteen years old, the kids might get sick), but also to unemployment, loss of business, and conflicts with family and friends.
Dear people whose favorite mantra is “I Hate Valentines Day!”, stop chanting it right now. You have to switch your attention. If you don’t know how to do it, the Broken Heart 911 program has a whole chapter dedicated to this subject
Why don’t you treat Valentines Day like Martin Luther King Day, Saint Patrick’s Day, or Veterans Day? You don’t have a date? Great! It is much better to be meaningfully single than to be alone within the couple. Go out and watch people. You will be surprised how many couples are “on duty” because “they have to do valentine rituals.” Yes, there are lots of happy couples and it’s great. However, if you are not in a happy or at least functional relationship, it is better to be single. You don’t have to be completed. The “to be complete” myth was created by the sales department of the first matchmaking service.
Read this blog. We are going to create a month long Valentines section that will be dedicated to making all single and broken hearted people feel good. Instead of thinking “I hate Valentines Day”, think “Let me make this Valentines Day the first day of my new, happy life.” Some people make New Year Resolution, you make a Valentines Day Resolution that will be the first stair on a large ladder of your future happiness.
How bad is it to be a rebound guy? What are your chances that a girl will really like you and eventually fall in love with you? Will she dump you as soon as she will recover of her break up and broken heart? As soon as she wants her ex back? All of those and other questions are probably spinning in your head when you met someone just out of a relationship.
There are good news and bad new for you. The good news is that your woman is in a very fragile emotional condition and if you play your cards right, you might eventually win her over and prove that you are much better then her beloved ex.
The bad news is that in the beginning you will be constantly compared (consciously and unconsciously) to her ex. After a break up has taken place and someone’s heart has been broken, this person’s mind might play a very mean trick – all bad memories might be erased while all great memories might be brought on the surface. That is when the “terribly missing ex” part begins.
Can a rebound guy be “promoted” to the only one? The answer is “absolutely yes”, but it does not happen every time. It is more of an exception. Sometimes a guy does not even realize what is going on. He might have no clue that he is a rebound guy, especially if a woman keeps most details of her previous relationship for herself
So how would someone recognize that he is a rebound guy? There is only one way to go about it – you have to keep yourself informed. You should not be afraid to ask questions. If a woman had her heart broken, she would be more than willing to talk about her former relationship and her ex. If she is too smart and avoids the topic completely, you would still get the sense that something happened from her friends and family.
Another common question is how much time should pass between her break up and her recovery. Well, if she was really in love and she broke up one to six months ago, chances that she is still mourning about her ex are pretty strong. If you don’t want to be her rebound guy, you have to make sure that she already dated (and preferably had sex with) someone after her break up. Then your chances to involve her emotionally are much stronger. Remember, you have no control over a woman, unless she is emotionally intrigued and involved.
If you are looking for a serious relationship, but you understand that she is heart broken and not emotionally available, then the best way is to move on and find someone else who could appreciate you more.
However, if you are not looking for a serious relationship right away, then being a rebound guy might be a win–win situation for both of you. She needs to receive support, increase her self-esteem, erase painful memories, and have a good time. You need to have a good company who will not be emotionally attached and needy. It might work for both of you.
Therefore, if you are a rebound guy and you are fully aware of the situation and agree with it, you have to remember one thing. You have to be gentle, kind, and generous. Don’t be another jerk who gives false promises and runs away. It is better to not say anything than say tons of words and not keep them. Remember, traumatizing a heart broken person is as bad as damaging the emotions of children or elderly people. It will bring you bad karma.
If you decide to be a rebound guy, be gentle. If you date a woman and find out that you are the rebound guy, then you have to think twice before making your decision.
Any break up is hard but being dumped on New Year’s Eve is a tough and completely cruel experience. The email below is from a woman who had her heart broken on New Year’s Eve.
“I want to heal my broken heart as quickly as I can. How should I move on? I’ve been with my boyfriend for four years. He broke up with me on New Year’s Eve without any reason. I’ve treated him like a king and loved him more than I loved myself for the last four years. Even though sometimes he treated me like an animal, I always forgave him. Please, help me. I need some advice. What should I do about my hurt feelings?”
It is an amazing thing that you would like to heal your heart fast and reached out for help. Your email is very short and we don’t have much info to comment on, so we’ll try out best…
I am sure that you are a great person with a beautiful soul who deserves to be happy. Therefore, instead of being sad, you have to be happy that you got rid of your boyfriend. Yes, it’s very sad to be dumped on New Year’s Eve. However, New Year night is over, and there is a new, beautiful year ahead of you where you can meet your true love and build a real relationship where both of you will be happy.
Unfortunately, your letter was very short but we have lots of free information in our Broken Heart Section as well as the program “Broken Heart 911” that covers each and every aspect of break up from A to Z.
Just remember two things
1) Your heart is as broken as you let it be.
2) Nobody died from a broken heart.
How to break up with your boyfriend? This question is very common for ladies who grew out of their current relationships. Sometimes, being under the pressure of guilt and obligations, women stay with men they don’t love anymore. Dear Ladies, you have only one life and you deserve to live it happily. Therefore, there is nothing wrong with breaking up with your boyfriend.
There are lots of reasons to break up with your boyfriend. Some people might tell you that your reasons to break up with your boyfriend are stupid. Don’t let anybody judge you – your reasons are your reasons. You are the one who spends time with HIM, not your family, friends, co-workers, or his family & friends.
The reasons to break up with your boyfriend can be absolutely diverse – from dead passion in your sexual life to a different background, from him going to sleep at 3 am and you waking up at 6am. There are as many breakup reasons, as the number of people who claim them. Sometimes, a man will think that you left him because he leaves his dirty socks in the middle of the room. One thing that is hard for him to understand is that numerous reasons rolled over and those dirty socks were just the last drop that caused the break up. However, they all boil down to two main break up reasons:
Break up Reason #2: you would like to move on and explore future potential relationships because….you don’t want to be with him anymore.
Let’s get back to the subject of how to break up with your boyfriend. There are two different ways.
First of all, before describing those ways, let’s decide to be caring, respectful, and classy even if your boyfriend drove you up to the wall and you absolutely can not stand him by now. If you have stayed with your boyfriend for many weeks, months, or years, he at least deserves an in person explanation.
Remember that breaking up with someone via text, email, or even phone is not only exceptionally rude, but also might bring you bad karma. You should treat people the way you would like to be treated.
How to break up with your boyfriend – the traditional, straight forward way:
How to break up with your boyfriend – the NON-traditional way- These strategies are great if you are not brave enough to tell your boyfriend that you would like to move forward.
Also, every time you will see a baby, you should get his attention and remark how cute this baby is as well as how much you would like to have a baby with him…or even three of them. Pick up babies’ names. You can talk about having babies during sex. Trust me, he won’t last long.
This methodic prescribes you to be very creative. You have to be as sweet as you can and come up with the most outrages ideas.
The whole point is for HIM to dump you. If you are brave enough, you have to just be honest and use the traditional strategy. If you are not brave as well as afraid of hurting his feeling, you have to pay the price. The non traditional strategy might take you a while to implement, especially if he is in love with you.
Therefore, how do you break up with your boyfriend? It is up to you. Just remember, if you have decided that you are in a relationship with the wrong person, don’t wait too long.