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Millions of women are trying to answer an eternal question – how do I make my man happy and how do I please him in order to have a happy and healthy relationship? If you are reading this now, congratulations – you are at the right place.

So how do you please your man, how do you make a man want you, and, most importantly, how do you keep your man and make him come back again and again?

I believe that this subject should be taught in high school. Why? Because if a woman is not happy in a relationship, she is not able to concentrate on her work, family, and social life. If women knew how to operate in a relationship smoothly, they would be able to safe lots of time and positive energy for other areas of their life.

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• “…once you get that down, you’ll have to understand a few essential truths: men are driven by who they are, what they do, and how much they make”.

• “He’s not thinking about settling down, having children, or building a home with anyone until he’s got all three of those things in sync. I’m not saying that he has had to have made it, but at least he has to be on track to making it.

• “But for us men? It’s everything. After we’ve attained that, it’s critical that we can show off what we get for being number one. We have to be able to flaunt it, and women have to be able to see it – otherwise, what’s the use of being number one?”

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• “Because in his world, he’s being judged by other men, based on who he is, what he does, and how much he makes. That affects his mood. If you know he’s not where he wants to be or not on track for being where he wants to be, then his mood swings at the house will make more sense to you.”

• “So if this is on his mind, and he hasn’t lined up the who he is, the what he does, and the how much he makes in the way that he sees fit, he can’t possibly be to you what he wants to be. Which means that you can’t really have the man you want. He can’t sit around talking with you, or dream about marriage and family, if his mind is on how to make money, how to get a better position, how to be the kin
  d of man he needs to be for you.”

• “The way you can help him get there is to help him focus on his dream, see the vision, and implement his plan”

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• “That’s a woman’s love – it stands the test of time, logic, and all circumstance. And this is exactly how you all expect us men to love you in return. Ask any woman what kind of love she wants from a man, and it will sound something like this: I want him to be humble and smart, fun and romantic, sensitive and gentle, and, above all, supportive. I want him to look in my eyes and tell me I’m beautiful and that I complete him. I want a man who is vulnerable enough to cry when he is hurting, who will introduce me to his mother with a smile on his face, who loves children and animals, and who is willing to change diapers and wash dishes and do it all without me having to ask. And if he has a nice body and lot of money and expensive shoes without scuffs, and would be great, too. Amen. Well, I’[m here to tell you that expecting that kind of love – that perfection from a man is unrealistic. That’s right, I said it- it’s not gonna happen, no way, no how. Because a man’s love isn’t like a woman’s love. Don’t get it confused, now- I’m not saying that we’re not capable of loving. I’m just saying that a man’s love is different – much more simple, direct, and probably a little harder to come by.”
• “His love is still love, though. It’s just different from the love that women give and , in a lot of cases, want.”
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• “If he introduces you as his “friend”, or by your name, have no doubt that’s all you are. He doesn’t think any more of you than that. In your heart of hearts, ladies, you all know this.”

• “So, if you’ve been dating a guy for at least ninety days and you’ve never met his mother, you don’t go to church together, you haven’t been around his family or his friends, and he took you to a networking/job/social function and introduced you by your name, then you are not in his plans – he doesn’t see you in his future. But the minute he assigns a title – the moment he lays claim to you in front of people who mean something to him in his life, whether it’s his boy, his sister, or his boss – that’s the minute you know your man is making a statement”.

• “If a man is in a position of being questioned about whether he’s able to provide, financially and otherwise, for the ones he loves, you might as well drop-kick his ego into an early grave. The more he can provide for his woman and his kids, the bigger and more alive he feels. Sounds simplistic, but that is the reality”.

• “And a man who truly loves you would never make you ask for money for necessities – he would make sure that you need and mostly want for nothing, because every pat on the back he gets for bringing more money into the house, every kiss he gets for handling over cash for school clothes and supplies and toys, every bit of appreciation he gets for keeping the lights and cable on, boosts his prowess as a man. That’s why if he’s a real man, he will always put buying something for himself far below his responsibility to provide for his family. His need for another set of golf clubs or expensive shoes or a fancy car or anything else men like to spend their money on will pale in comparison to providing for loved ones, because those golf clubs can’t make him square his shoulders the way true appreciation from a woman can. Consequently, everything he does is going to be about trying to make sure the woman he loves has what she needs”.

• “And if a man can’t provide, then he doesn’t feel like a man, so he flees to escape the horrible feelings of inadequacy or he’s going to bury those feelings in drugs and alcohol.”

• “Of course, some men simply refuse to share the money in their pockets with their women. AS some rap songs and hip-hop magazines tell you, these men feel they’re being “played” if they provide anything of monetary value to the opposite sex. Some men even label any and every woman who expects her intended to provide for her the very handy, decisively ugly phrase “gold digger
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• “I’m here to tell you, though, ladies, that the term “gold digger” is one of the traps we men set to keep you off our money trail; we created that term for you so that we can have all of our money and still get everything we want from you without u asking for or expecting this very basic, instinctual responsibility that men all over the world are obligated to assume and embrace”.

• “Know this: It is your right to expect that a man will pay for your dinner, your movie ticket, your club entry fee, or whatever else he has to pay for in exchange for your time”

• “When a man truly loves you, anybody who says, does, suggests, or even thinks about doing something offensive to you stands the risk of being obliterated. Your man will destroy anything and everything in his path to make sure that whoever disrespected you pays for it. This is his nature”.

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Stood up means that your date not only did not show up, but also did not bother to explain why it happened. Of course, there were no apologies either. The false promises to go somewhere or do something together are considered stood up as well. We are not talking about waiting for a person at the time he was supposed to pick you up and his phone was off.

Stood up means a no show at the promised and scheduled time without any explanations.

Stood up is the first step towards your broken heart!

Now, let’s make it crystal clear.

If a man gets stood up by a woman there can only be three reasons:

1) Something terrible happened – you should call her and ask what happened.

2) The woman is absolutely not interested in this man and does not care to the level that she won’t communicate with him at all. If a woman is not interested, there is nothing you can do except either step back, wait and pray, or find another woman.

3) The woman has been hurt by this man and this is her little (or not so little) revenge plan. If a woman is hurt or upset, then you really need to come up with a strategy for her forgiveness, but that’s a separate topic.

If a woman gets stood up by a man, there might be too many reasons, but the main two would be:

1) Disrespect – he simply does not care enough to call and explain.

2) Fear – he knows that he is wrong, but he does not want to go through the explanation process, so he develops an “ostrich attitude”, putting his head into the sand and pretending that he cannot be seen.

What is the solution? The solution is simple. Are you familiar with the “done once” rule? All people are creatures of habits. If someone did something once, then he will do it again.

Therefore, if a man disrespected you once, then he will do it again.

You are the one who has to choose between the pleasure of spending time with this man under his conditions or respecting yourself and not letting anybody treat you like a doormat.

I advise you to listen to him once and if he will do it again, then you need to move on unless you are fine with being stood up on weekly basis. If your man does the same disrespectful things to you over and over again, then he is the wrong man for you. There are lots of available men and all it takes is to just find one.

If you believe that you will be able to change your man, then I have news for you. The only age when you can change a man is when he is in diapers.

The way your man behaves is his choice and there is nothing you can to change his choice. The only thing you can do is make your own choice that will be good for you. Moving forward with your life will be the best possible choice because you have only one life which is absolutely precious. You deserve to be happy each and every moment of your life.

Being stood up is another form of experience that people get. There is no such a thing as bad experience. According to a Chinese proverb, bad experience is an opportunity in working clothes.

And when you meet your Mr. Right-For-You, you will recognize him immediately because he won’t make you feel sad or worried.

Move on and let Mr. False Promise/No Show worry and wonder where you are now. There will be other women in his life to be stood up. If you are a lady with self respect and self confidence, you won’t join them.

Men often take women’s caring, sweetness, and kindness for a weakness…big mistake!

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Facebook has fouled the dating world a whole lot. You have to ask a lot of questions when you are reading someone’s profile: Is this information a true representation of the person or an online avatar of what makes them look the best?  The anonymity of the internet has given people the courage to write anything. Self doubt coupled with the freedom to develop an online avatar of themselves has caused many an uncomfortable first date. Confidence in yourself and being real about yourself online is a major component of being successful in general. Being overly revealing is also a bain to your success. “Does everyone really need to know this factoid?” is a heavy question that you need to ask when making a profile.

Humans are inquisitive by nature. Facebook is like stalker heroine. I find grand irony in the fact that Zuckerberg ended up having a horribly invasive stalker in his life. With all good things comes a down side. The reconnecting with old friends, family, and former coworkers is great and its effect on freedom to seek information in repressive regimes has propagated freedom all over the globe.  Despite all the relationships that it has destroyed,  all the Facebook bullying, drunken booty calls, and breakfast menu updates, the freedom it has allowed and the democracy it has promoted is phenomenal.

With all of this said, I can easily assume that Facebook is most likely one of the leading factors in fractured relationships (and broken heart reason). Facebook has so many uses: self promotion, business promotion, informed living, true relationship building, and faux importance building. If you are interested in a person or in the early stages of dating, then you need to stay off their page or limit the depth of which you are digging, especially if they are using their page for business or personal promotion. You will be driven insane with assumptions regarding why this person is contacting them or whose status they have liked. ‘Age: number of friends’ ratio is important. If they are 18-25:500-700 friends are normal, and for their age group they are adept at Facebook and grew up with social networking. Stalking and liking most of their statuses is not as faux pa. If they are 25-35:200-400 friends can be normal but Facebook stalking is less accepted. 35-40:150-250 is normal and Facebook stalking may turn them off quickly. This is the ‘but’ and it’s a big one.  If you see a person that exceeds these numbers and has no interest in self promotion of services, ideals, products, or business then they may be friend collectors and sorting through all of their contacts will drive you battier than trying to decipher the meanings of the symbolism in the TV series “Lost” or trying to decipher the drunken text of your philosophy student friend. Get to know the person, and then their profile will make more sense, if any at all.

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Facebook ruins relationships – this fact is sad, but true. A broken heart logo can be incorporated in multiple profiles; as a matter of fact it would be great for the statistics.

The contemporary puzzle of dating and relationships is complicated enough to put it together and make it work. With pieces that don’t fit, get broken, or belong to different puzzles, it’s hard to do. Facebook provides a great opportunity to take dating and relationship complications to the next level.

Keeping your hand on your ex’s pulse, fishing for a new romance in someone else’s pond, flirting with someone’s fiancée, boyfriend, or husband (girlfriend, wife), checking her ex’s new flame and his (her) surroundings, making someone jealous, etc. This is just the beginning of the list of real activities.

With 500 million Facebook users where the average user has about 130 friends, 250 million people log on every day. 48% of 18-34 year olds check Facebook when they wake up, with 28% doing so before even getting out of bed. Over 700 billion minutes a month are spent on Facebook*.

Facebook has become a home for teenagers and a playground for adults. While teens like to share each and every action with “puppy joy” and innocent smiles on their faces, adults tend to use new toys more strategically.

Facebook is the new CNN for personal use where people can create and deliver their own information and news to their acquaintance circle. Of course, many serious people use Facebook for business; no doubt about it, but in the world of dating, relationships, break ups, and broken hearts, Facebook has become one of the most powerful weapons that is used constantly used.

With 46,256,040 (18.49%) males and 57,481,100 females (54.03%) over 18+ years old, there are 19,670,180 (18.49%) singles, 13,106,220 (12.32%) in a relationship, 2,833,280 (2.66%) engaged, and 30,761,820 (28.91%) married.**

Can you imagine how huge the field for strategic conscious and subconscious manipulations really is?

5 Ways People Use Facebook in the Dating World

1. Stay informed about their exes.

The amount of people constantly checking the pages of their exes is scary. Tons of beautiful pictures where happy people are having fun, in reality, are posted with one simple purpose – to get the attention of one specific person and make him (her) jealous or show that he (she) is not missed anymore. While people constantly and start new relationships all of the time, the power of exes is underestimated. It takes at least one rebound relationship (sometimes more) to forget about that special person.

2. “To Facebook” new flames.

Facebook has become the new Google for getting information (use the information together mindfully, and you will be almost trained for a career as an FBI agent). You can learn a lot by reading someone’s profile and interests, as well as checking out his (her) friends, statuses, and pictures. The compete list of favorite movies and music will give you an extended insight on his (her) character. You don’t need an advanced degree in psychology to figure out their personality.

3. To communicate with someone indirectly.

Sure, women do it more often than men, but women are extremely creative. If wo men apply the same amount of creativity and dedication that they apply to dating and relationships to their jobs and studies, America probably wouldn’t be in the current economy crisis.

We all know examples of a girl who would spend money on shopping, doing her hair, and makeup, going out to some events only to put her picture on Facebook where she has 500 friends she could care less about, but…there is that one  particular person she is in love with. So she would jump through all those hoops with “Facebook self marketing” just to get his attention.

4. To destroy someone else’s happiness by discussing sensitive topics with people in front of thousands of other people.

5. Reaching people you wouldn’t be able to reach without having access to Facebook.

THANK YOU, FACEBOOK, FOR EASY WAY OF FINDING THE TRUTH…IT WON’T BE POSSIBLE WITHOUT YOU!

*   http://www.digitalbuzzblog.com/facebook-statistics-stats-facts-2011/

** http://www.facebook.com/note.php?note_id=4

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Another time…there is always another time but all people understand that in reality there might not be another time. You and him might have as many reasons to see each other as you do to not see each other. You never know; you might miss one opportunity and life will give you another opportunity at the time you were supposed to be with this person. However, everything happens for the best and for a reason

“There is always another time” in a way is a synonym of “monkey see, monkey do.”

12 Reasons for Women to See Men Another Time

1. If a man is not clear about whether he wants to see you or not and can’t choose between you and watching a game, boys night out, a poker game, visiting his mother, etc., then it’s not the right time yet.

2. If a man says “I’ll call you” and he actually means “anytime before I die”, let other women to see this man.  Remember, a call is an action, not a condition.

3. If a man wants you to be exclusive with him, but he is not sure if he is going to be exclusive with you, then perhaps you need to see him another time, unless you would like to join his harem. I hope you are aware that sleeping with a man in a way means sleeping with his women and their other men.

4. If a man is “busy” every weekend, and the only time he has is on weekdays, then you might need to see him another time…next year perhaps? Unless it’s casual sex or booty calls, dating a special person is about spending at least one of your weekend evenings together

5. If a man does not return your calls within one or two days, it’s better to see him another time.

6. If a man practices hibernation or disappearing acts (especially after hot sex), then you should definitely see him another time – when his hibernation is permanently over.

7. If a man does not acknowledge Valentine’s Day, Christmas, New Year’s Eve, and your birthday with flowers and gifts, then it’s better to meet another time and preferably with another man. You can let go of Halloween and the 4^th of July, but hello, Valentine’s Day is a must!

8. If you have too many questions about your man, but can’t even get some answers – there is always another time

9. If the man has a couple thousand Facebook “friends” who wear lingerie in their profile picture and a significant amount of them post on his wall about how delighted they would be to see him soon, perhaps you need to let them do it and…see man another time.

10. If a man thinks that a relationship equals having sex when he is available or has no idea what a relationship is and what it’s for, then you might need to see him another time.

11. If a man is on a date with you, but suddenly starts paying attention to another woman, it’s cool…but not with you…so you might need to see him another time.

12. IF A MAN HAS A DESIRE TO SEE YOU, HE’LL FIND LOTS OF OPPORTUNITIES; IF HE HAS NO DESIRE TO SEE YOU, HE’LL FIND TONS OF REASONS.   THEREFORE, IF HE HAS NO DESIRE TO SEE YOU, THEN YOU MIGHT NEED TO SEE HIM ANOTHER TIME!

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“I hate valentines day!” is the most common phrase said by single people in their most despised holiday – Single Awareness Day. There are reasons behind this saying because society puts tremendous pressure on currently single people.

People who are single by choice suddenly start feeling anxiety and doubts about their lifestyles. “What if…” they think. This means “What if I made the wrong choice, what if I had gotten married, what if I had concentrated on looking for my potential significant other?” Those multiple “ifs” twirl inside of their heads 24/7 as soon as they are trigged by multiple red ads with heart shaped objects.

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People who are single by choice usually win those inner battles pretty quickly and do not acknowledge the “V” holiday at all. They pretend it does not exist. However, this group of people is not that big. The largest “I hate Valentines Day” group is people who went through a dramatic break up. They either just cured their broken heart or still have it. Those people would give up lots of things in their lives in order to be held by someone who loves them on Valentines Day. Of course, 90% of those people are women.

Unfortunately, the real situation is not that simple. Those single people who dread being single on Valentines Day put a tremendous amount of pressure, anxiety, jealousy, and negativity on themselves. This is very dangerous because it can not only damage their health, but can also attract negative events in other areas of their lives (work, family, social, etc). Their inner moaning and crying about their exes might lead to not only multiple diseases (if they have kids under thirteen years old, the kids might get sick), but also to unemployment, loss of business, and conflicts with family and friends.

Dear people whose favorite mantra is “I Hate Valentines Day!”, stop chanting it right now. You have to switch your attention. If you don’t know how to do it, the Broken Heart 911 program has a whole chapter dedicated to this subject

Why don’t you treat Valentines Day like Martin Luther King Day, Saint Patrick’s Day, or Veterans Day? You don’t have a date? Great! It is much better to be meaningfully single than to be alone within the couple. Go out and watch people. You will be surprised how many couples are “on duty” because “they have to do valentine rituals.” Yes, there are lots of happy couples and it’s great. However, if you are not in a happy or at least functional relationship, it is better to be single. You don’t have to be completed. The “to be complete” myth was created by the sales department of the first matchmaking service.

There are several ideas for single people on how to spend Valentines Day:

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• Is there something that you have always wanted to do, but never had extra time or budget? Do it on Valentines Day whether it is trying a pole dancing class, doing a seaweed wrap, or buying a useless but beautiful piece of jewelry.

• Do you have a single friend or relative who you haven’t seen in a while? Go see this person. Perhaps you have your favorite niece who can’t wait to see you or your little sister who never gets your attention. If you are a single parent, spend your time with your kid doing something fun. Trust me, her (his) memories will be more valuable in the long term than spending time with “whoever was available.”

• Splurge on anything you want that would make you feel good.

• Go see a great movie, play, or concert.

• Remember that you are not the only one. You just feel like it. There are millions of people who are in the same boat as you.

Read this blog. We are going to create a month long Valentines section that will be dedicated to making all single and broken hearted people feel good. Instead of thinking “I hate Valentines Day”, think “Let me make this Valentines Day the first day of my new, happy life.” Some people make New Year Resolution, you make a Valentines Day Resolution that will be the first stair on a large ladder of your future happiness.

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How bad is it to be a rebound guy? What are your chances that a girl will really like you and eventually fall in love with you? Will she dump you as soon as she will recover of her break up and broken heart? As soon as she wants her ex back? All of those and other questions are probably spinning in your head when you met someone just out of a relationship.

There are good news and bad new for you. The good news is that your woman is in a very fragile emotional condition and if you play your cards right, you might eventually win her over and prove that you are much better then her beloved ex.

The bad news is that in the beginning you will be constantly compared (consciously and unconsciously) to her ex. After a break up has taken place and someone’s heart has been broken, this person’s mind might play a very mean trick – all bad memories might be erased while all great memories might be brought on the surface. That is when the “terribly missing ex” part begins.

Can a rebound guy be “promoted” to the only one? The answer is “absolutely yes”, but it does not happen every time. It is more of an exception.  Sometimes a guy does not even realize what is going on. He might have no clue that he is a rebound guy, especially if a woman keeps most details of her previous relationship for herself

So how would someone recognize that he is a rebound guy? There is only one way to go about it – you have to keep yourself informed. You should not be afraid to ask questions. If a woman had her heart broken, she would be more than willing to talk about her former relationship and her ex. If she is too smart and avoids the topic completely, you would still get the sense that something happened from her friends and family.

Another common question is how much time should pass between her break up and her recovery. Well, if she was really in love and she broke up one to six months ago, chances that she is still mourning about her ex are pretty strong. If you don’t want to be her rebound guy, you have to make sure that she already dated (and preferably had sex with) someone after her break up. Then your chances to involve her emotionally are much stronger. Remember, you have no control over a woman, unless she is emotionally intrigued and involved.

If you are looking for a serious relationship, but you understand that she is heart broken and not emotionally available, then the best way is to move on and find someone else who could appreciate you more.

However, if you are not looking for a serious relationship right away, then being a rebound guy might be a win–win situation for both of you. She needs to receive support, increase her self-esteem, erase painful memories, and have a good time. You need to have a good company who will not be emotionally attached and needy. It might work for both of you.

Therefore, if you are a rebound guy and you are fully aware of the situation and agree with it, you have to remember one thing. You have to be gentle, kind, and generous. Don’t be another jerk who gives false promises and runs away. It is better to not say anything than say tons of words and not keep them. Remember, traumatizing a heart broken person is as bad as damaging the emotions of children or elderly people. It will bring you bad karma.

If you decide to be a rebound guy, be gentle. If you date a woman and find out that you are the rebound guy, then you have to think twice before making your decision.

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Any break up is hard but being dumped on New Year’s Eve is a tough and completely cruel experience. The email below is from a woman who had her heart broken on New Year’s Eve.

“I want to heal my broken heart as quickly as I can. How should I move on? I’ve been with my boyfriend for four years. He broke up with me on New Year’s Eve without any reason. I’ve treated him like a king and loved him more than I loved myself for the last four years. Even though sometimes he treated me like an animal, I always forgave him. Please, help me. I need some advice. What should I do about my hurt feelings?”

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It is an amazing thing that you would like to heal your heart fast and reached out for help. Your email is very short and we don’t have much info to comment on, so we’ll try out best…

• In order for you to heal your broken heart, you need to understand the real reason why you were dumped. Just a quick glance at your letter shows that you have no idea why he did it. “I loved him more than I loved myself” – this is one of several reasons described in the “Broken Heart 911” e-book along with the “dumping formula.”

• You said that “he treated you like an animal”…well, it’s pretty self-descriptive. You should ask yourself, “Would I like to be treated like an animal again?” Then you should answer honestly. Yes, there are people who enjoy suffering, but I am not the right person to advise those people. There are clinics with certified doctors.

I am sure that you are a great person with a beautiful soul who deserves to be happy. Therefore, instead of being sad, you have to be happy that you got rid of your boyfriend. Yes, it’s very sad to be dumped on New Year’s Eve. However, New Year night is over, and there is a new, beautiful year ahead of you where you can meet your true love and build a real relationship where both of you will be happy.

• Everything happens for a reason and perhaps this New Year break up was a sign that enough is enough. Four years is one of the main relationship milestones and more than 40% of relationships are over by that time.

• The first thing you need to do is stop panicking, crying, and talking about your situation. What you really need to do is accept the reality.

Unfortunately, your letter was very short but we have lots of free information in our Broken Heart Section as well as the program “Broken Heart 911” that covers each and every aspect of break up from A to Z.

Just remember two things

1)    Your heart is as broken as you let it be.

2)    Nobody died from a broken heart.

How to break up with your boyfriend? This question is very common for ladies who grew out of their current relationships. Sometimes, being under the pressure of guilt and obligations, women stay with men they don’t love anymore. Dear Ladies, you have only one life and you deserve to live it happily. Therefore, there is nothing wrong with breaking up with your boyfriend.

There are lots of reasons to break up with your boyfriend. Some people might tell you that your reasons to break up with your boyfriend are stupid. Don’t let anybody judge you – your reasons are your reasons. You are the one who spends time with HIM, not your family, friends, co-workers, or his family & friends.

The reasons to break up with your boyfriend can be absolutely diverse – from dead passion in your sexual life to a different background, from him going to sleep at 3 am and you waking up at 6am. There are as many breakup reasons, as the number of people who claim them. Sometimes, a man will think that you left him because he leaves his dirty socks in the middle of the room. One thing that is hard for him to understand is that numerous reasons rolled over and those dirty socks were just the last drop that caused the break up. However, they all boil down to two main break up reasons:

Break up Reason #1: you don’t want to be with him anymore.

Break up Reason #2: you would like to move on and explore future potential relationships because….you don’t want to be with him anymore.

Let’s get back to the subject of how to break up with your boyfriend. There are two different ways.

First of all, before describing those ways, let’s decide to be caring, respectful, and classy even if your boyfriend drove you up to the wall and you absolutely can not stand him by now. If you have stayed with your boyfriend for many weeks, months, or years, he at least deserves an in person explanation.

Remember that breaking up with someone via text, email, or even phone is not only exceptionally rude, but also might bring you bad karma. You should treat people the way you would like to be treated.

How to break up with your boyfriend – the traditional, straight forward way:

• Meet your soon to be ex in a quiet, public place. You never know what kind of reaction you can expect, so being in public will prevent you from any surprises. The best place would be a quiet coffee shop.

• Tell him, in the nicest way possible, how great and memorable was time you spent with him was. Tell him that you really appreciate the fact of knowing him and would like to remain friendly. PLEASE NOTE: not to remain friends! If you state “let’s be friends”, he will hear, “I’m very mad now, so I’m going to withdraw you from having sex, but as soon as I calm down, we’ll be back together.”

• When he will ask you about your break up reasons, try to be honest. However, the best way is to sugar wrap the most painful moments. The break up fact will be painful enough for him.  Remember, your goal is to move forward, not to kill his self-esteem. Therefore, instead of telling him that he is “an absolute cheap loser with a two inch, incapable penis who spends all of his free time playing video games and has the idea that a romantic dinner is ordering pizza and watching game.” You should tell him that you feel that you need to move forward with your life because your current relationship is not fulfilling enough for you and you see yourself with a different person.

• Do not fall for his promises. Tell him that you’re sure that he is a great guy and he is capable to change, however, you are not looking to change him. The only thing you would like to change is your life. Words mean nothing; actions mean everything. Remember, if he wants to get you back, he needs to work (do not tell him that. If he is smart enough, he will understand, and if he is not smart enough, why do you need him anyway?)

• Suggest that you need to stop communicating for a while. Do not specify the time. If you won’t reply to his calls, emails, or texts after this statement, it will be fair. If you just disappear without this initial conversation, it will be rude and disrespectful.

How to break up with your boyfriend – the NON-traditional way- These strategies are great if you are not brave enough to tell your boyfriend that you would like to move forward.

• Make a list of things that he hates the most. For example, he hates sushi, chick flicks, and your best friend. Also, he is terrified of the idea of having children soon. From now on, you have to make sure that your best friend will visit you and him on a regular basis. Ideally she should bring with her sushi and a couple of chick flicks. You guys need to occupy the main TV for the whole evening.

Also, every time you will see a baby, you should get his attention and remark how cute this baby is as well as how much you would like to have a baby with him…or even three of them. Pick up babies’ names. You can talk about having babies during sex. Trust me, he won’t last long.

• Make a list of things that he loves the most such as boys’ nights out and visiting his mom for Sunday brunch. From now on, every time he is going to meet with the boys, you can start calling him every 15 minutes (or even drop by unannounced) and later on tell him how sick and tired you are of waiting for him. Every time after visiting his mom, you should make a negative remark about things he likes the most (such as her cooking, etc.).

This methodic prescribes you to be very creative. You have to be as sweet as you can and come up with the most outrages ideas.

The whole point is for HIM to dump you. If you are brave enough, you have to just be honest and use the traditional strategy. If you are not brave as well as afraid of hurting his feeling, you have to pay the price. The non traditional strategy might take you a while to implement, especially if he is in love with you.

Therefore, how do you break up with your boyfriend? It is up to you. Just remember, if you have decided that you are in a relationship with the wrong person, don’t wait too long.