So how do you please your man, how do you make a man want you, and, most importantly, how do you keep your man and make him come back again and again?

I believe that this subject should be taught in high school. Why? Because if a woman is not happy in a relationship, she is not able to concentrate on her work, family, and social life. If women knew how to operate in a relationship smoothly, they would be able to safe lots of time and positive energy for other areas of their life.

How to Please Your Man 101

• If you remember your first couple of dates with your current lover, then you must have done something right; if you don’t currently have a lover, then you might be doing something wrong on those first couple dates. 

• Real relationships are based on trust, understanding, freedom, chemistry, and acceptance. If even one piece of this puzzle is missing, you won’t be able to truly be happy. Unless you can be both best friends and passionate lovers, you won’t be able to build a real relationship. If you don’t trust each other, you’ll end up being miserable from being suspicious and jealous. If you don’t understand each other and won’t be able to deliver your message, you’ll end up tired and disappointed. If you can’t accept each other the way you are, you’ll end up losing the person. Nobody’s perfect, but the relationship might be if you make the right choices.

On the other hand though, you now have to figure out a way to give up 50% of yourself in order to be 100% with that person, because no two souls are ever exactly alike. I believe that if someone is worth it though, changing yourself becomes inevitable.

I myself am going through this change although it’s been a long time coming since I met my boyfriend. When we met, in a crowd of friends, I had no idea I would be this sprung a year and a half later. He was everything I never wanted when judged purely on his looks, but he made it abundantly clear that I was everything he wanted.

Something about his confidence made him slightly more attractive to me, so I developed a need to be around him. It took me a couple of months to realize that my friendship with him was interfering. I no longer wanted to go anywhere if I knew he wasn’t there, and when we were somewhere together, our night would not end there after all our friends scattered, It would end somewhere at a view or a quiet street at around 5 am.

We would spend our time talking, laughing, or sometimes just sitting quietly and listening to music; Hours of the day or the night did not matter to either one of us anymore because they all went by just as fast when we were together.

Finally, on a night no different than our usual, I got the courage to tell him how I feel, and then we kissed. It was a kiss that lasted long after it ended, from the first second of it’s perfect existence I knew I was in love, and when it lingered on my lips long after we had parted ways, I knew I never wanted to let him go.

Almost two years passed since that sensational kiss and I still don’t ever want to let him go. Like all couples we’ve had our ups and downs, but unlike all couples we made it through them and only loved each other more afterwards. We did find out that we’re very different people, and often had intense argument’s because of that, but we decided that we wont let things like that drive us apart. Instead we’re going to learn from them and make small changes in ourselves to avoid them in the future.

Then, on a normal night of pigging out and watching movies at his house, he kissed me. I could lie and say it was the best kiss in the world, but honestly, the first thing that popped into my head was: “Really? This is what I’ve been waiting for?” I felt nothing, but since I waited for that moment for years, I let myself keep doing it for the next couple of weeks until it consumed me.

After we started officially dating, I gave him my body, and thought we would be together forever. I never imagined my best friend would deceive me in any way, and when it happened the first time, I forgave him without even thinking about it. “It was just a kiss” he said. So I continued to let myself fall deeper.

We did everything together, and I really thought he needed me, until the first time he said “I just don’t feel like having a girlfriend right now.” This break up had me crying for weeks, and on the days I thought I couldn’t take it anymore, I called him to hang out “as friends”. Of course to him it was a chance to have sex with me without dealing with commitment.

Finally I got the strength to stay away from him for a couple weeks and before I knew it he wanted me back; I took him back without giving it another thought. Throughout our three year relationship he broke up with me the same way over twenty times and every time, when he came back I gladly accepted him.

Probably because I didn’t think anyone would love me the way he did; I was wrong. Not only was I wrong about that, I was wrong about him, because when I finally got the courage to snoop through his text’s I found the answers I tried so hard to deny in my head.

Yes, he was texting other girls, including his ex girlfriend who he had slept with behind my back numerous times. I was so devastated and furious that I stormed out of his house and told him to never speak to me again. Not too long passed before he was at my door again; this time with flowers. They were so beautiful I had to take him back, but even pretty flowers couldn’t keep us together for long and subconsciously I never really forgave him.

After our third year of breaking up, making up, lying, cheating and pretending that we were okay I went on vacation. I only spent a week in Hawaii with one of my best friends but for some odd reason when I got back home I just didn’t love him anymore. He tried all his old tricks on me but they no longer lit up my heart, and I knew I had to move on.

Sometimes I got lonely and other times when he came to me crying I wanted to just hug him and tell him that everything is okay, and I love him too, but that was no longer true. It’s been years since my break up, and now it’s very hard to look back and understand why I spent so long crying when I could have been happy, but that’s just life I guess.

• My friend, Eve, was dating a great guy named Rick (handsome doctor from Beverly Hills) and wanted to introduce me to his brother. However, my sixth sense told me to not do it. I explained to myself that at that moment, I didn’t have the time or the desire. Instead, I offered my best friend to meet him. They met, they clicked, and they liked each other instantly. They were compatible in each and every aspect from sex to signs of horoscopes, from viewpoints on everything to food and drinks. Let’s call them Ann and Dave. 

Two weeks later, Ann found out that all the rumors came from Beth because she wanted Ann out. Beth was jealous because neither her degrees nor her high paid doctor practice could bring her and Rick closer. Each and every person who knew Rick admitted that he looked lost and unhappy. He didn’t have sparks in his eyes like he used to have with Eve. 

Again, I’ll repeat, finding happiness is possible for each and every person. It does not matter if you are a man or a woman, if you are eighteen or eighty, you can become happy at this particular moment. This will definitely take more than reading this article, but this read might become a first step for your happiness-on-a-daily-basis journey. 

How to Find Happiness – The 5 Main Steps

Secondly, you need to accept and love yourself the way you are now. Each and every person is different for a reason. All definitions of people’s qualities are subjective. Nobody has a license to judge. You won’t become happy until you let yourself be yourself and until you love yourself and accept yourself the way you are now. Next and most importantly, nobody is responsible for finding your happiness but you. It is very easy to sit on your behind and whine about how bad things are. It takes much more to get up and get going to really create circumstances that will make you happy. And finally, until you are in a good mood, good things won’t happen to you. There is a “catch 22” – you can’t find happiness because bad things happen, and they keep happening because you are unhappy. You need to break the circle.

•  A broken heart is a reminder of all the lessons you’ve learned in your relationship. It is not the end of the world; it is just a wakeup call to actions, to a better self, to a happier life, and to a bigger and better future.~Viktoria

• Never be upset if you broke up with someone special; be thankful that you stopped something that was not meant to be. If you are not together, it means that he (she) was not really that special. A special person won’t let you feel hurt; he (she) will make you feel happy and delighted. If you still believe that he (she) was special, just let him (her) remain this way in your heart. If you really love someone, do it unconditionally, not because you want something in return.~Viktoria