Written by Lana -Everyone wants to be in love, because it’s not just a good feeling, it’s an utterly different life style. Once you’re with someone who is constantly in the back of your mind, someone whose happiness satisfies you as much as your own, your life becomes significantly easier and harder at the same time. On one hand you are no longer searching for that little speck of attention from random people at bars, clubs and parties; you have someone to hold you and love you every night; problems you used to crumble over become easily solvable because two minds work so much better than one mind, just like two souls work better than one lonely soul.
On the other hand though, you now have to figure out a way to give up 50% of yourself in order to be 100% with that person, because no two souls are ever exactly alike. I believe that if someone is worth it though, changing yourself becomes inevitable.
I myself am going through this change although it’s been a long time coming since I met my boyfriend. When we met, in a crowd of friends, I had no idea I would be this sprung a year and a half later. He was everything I never wanted when judged purely on his looks, but he made it abundantly clear that I was everything he wanted.
Something about his confidence made him slightly more attractive to me, so I developed a need to be around him. It took me a couple of months to realize that my friendship with him was interfering. I no longer wanted to go anywhere if I knew he wasn’t there, and when we were somewhere together, our night would not end there after all our friends scattered, It would end somewhere at a view or a quiet street at around 5 am.
We would spend our time talking, laughing, or sometimes just sitting quietly and listening to music; Hours of the day or the night did not matter to either one of us anymore because they all went by just as fast when we were together.
Finally, on a night no different than our usual, I got the courage to tell him how I feel, and then we kissed. It was a kiss that lasted long after it ended, from the first second of it’s perfect existence I knew I was in love, and when it lingered on my lips long after we had parted ways, I knew I never wanted to let him go.
Almost two years passed since that sensational kiss and I still don’t ever want to let him go. Like all couples we’ve had our ups and downs, but unlike all couples we made it through them and only loved each other more afterwards. We did find out that we’re very different people, and often had intense argument’s because of that, but we decided that we wont let things like that drive us apart. Instead we’re going to learn from them and make small changes in ourselves to avoid them in the future.